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30-35,
*rystelle
writes:one of my close friends that as been there for me the past 5 months has finally met a guy. she's been single for a year and abit and i was always worried that maybe she wasn't happy and would become easy with guys to get attention from them. alot of guys in my year notice how big her boobs are, but they still wouldn't want to touch her or anything; according to them. so i was happy that she'd found someone.i knew she'd been on meet your messenger and that type of stuff, so she talked to alot of older boys. i even had to talk to one of them once because he upset her, and i ended up thinking why is she getting herself involved with jerks like this? for one he was a father at 16, took drugs. so her boyfriend is off meet your messenger. he lives quite a while away, at first i thought oh he's a nice guy. but they both lied about how long they'd known eachother. in the end it turned out they'd known eachother just a day before starting to date. now it's about five days later and i found out that when she meets him (don't worry her mum will be there) that he's buying her a ring. as in he's proposing to her! she's already said yes and says its because she loves him. and he says he loves her, but they've known eachother less than a week. how is that even possible? i've told him he's been crazy. and he shouldn't take away every bit of freedom she has. he's sixteen + she's fourteen. the the minute she's legal that its. to be honest though i don't think, infact i know, they won't last longer than four months! but if she honestly thinks she is this in love with him, won't she be really hurt when he leaves her?
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (20 August 2008):
 All you can do is let her make her own mistakes, even though you can tell her that you think she is moving too quickly. And boy, is she! That's lightening speed. The good news is that she's far to young to actually get married, so she'll have to wait anyway. Just be there to support her when the inevitable happens, and try not to say 'I told you so.'
You sound like a good friend to her, continue being sensible and speak the truth to her always.
Good luck, I hope she comes around soon!
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (20 August 2008):
 It's almost sad to say, but yes, she will.
What you can try to do is just reason with both of them. Tell them to take it slow because they're running 200 miles per hour in that relationship, and for that reason it will end very soon.
Now, if neither wants to reason with you no matter how many times you tell them, then you have no other option than to wait for the whole relationship to falter. If your friend does not heed your advise, then she has to learn it the hard way. Now, when this happens, please be with her to console her and get her through the pain. She will likely almost give up on boys again, so try to build up her confidense so she doesn't give up.
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