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writes:My was in a deep relationship with a guy for 3 yrs and we broke up about 5 months ago. We keep in contact with each other every day. Lately, we were having all sorts of dreams about each other and we had both admitted our feelings for each other. The other day we performed foreplay on each other as a sexual way to express ourselves. I am so confused now. He says that he wants us to be together in the future but not now although both of us are single. I really love him but i dont want to get hurt. Can someone please tell me what to do from here?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for the advice.OK,in response to Happivibes' advice..I did sever contact many times to the point that he missed me and expressed himself deeply with one of those "from the heart" speeches that moved me.Then stiil cn it mean that he is taking advantage of me or can it be that he is doing whatever he can so that he cant lose me again.PS Whenever I mention about a boy he usually has a "hurt" tone in his voice.We had broken up mutually because of a family/school problem that came up.
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reader, Happivibes  +, writes (19 August 2008):
 Hey you sound like a lovely thoughtful person, I think he is getting the best of both worlds here. Being single but having your adoration and he keeps giving you just enough honey to keep you stuck on him while he does what he likes.
You should sever contact for a few weeks to clear your head, and then tell him that if he loves and respects you he will either make a commitment or leave you alone and stop taking advantage of your feelings and good nature.
Men can be unbelievably selfish. You are worth more than this. Be confident if he does really love you and its meant to be he will move heaven and earth to put you first.
Maybe he needs to feel the total absence of you to appreciate what you an to him.
Happy vibes to light your way. x
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reader, Frostygirl +, writes (19 August 2008):
 Because I dont know anything about it, take my tips with a pinch of salt.THINK ABOUT-Why did you break up?-Has he been with anyone else you know of? And is he trying not to hurt either of you?Or maybe its just simlpy he doesnt want to hurt you or get hurt himself. He may have thought, 'well we've broken up before, it might happen again' I suggest talk to him, and ask him why he doesnt want it now but later.
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