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writes:Hello guys. I've just got married and I don't have any experience with men. Can you tell me how the woman can be good at sex... because I heard many of you people talk about this but I don't understand what men mean when they say women are good in bed?Also can you help me and tell me what women can do to make their husbands think of having sex with them. Thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, lena1 +, writes (20 April 2009):
lena1 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank every one for the answer.
all your answers are helpful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): i think your husband was insensitive in telling you that you didn't know how to turn him on. since he has had other lovers then he needs to teach you. if he feels that you are still "failing" kindly tell him that he is a lousy teacher.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): it's difficult to cover. my ex-girlfriend had only had sex once in her life - it wasn't good. she was enthusiastic in the bedroom but not skilled (to be expected). at a minimum to be 'good at sex' u can breath, moan, say 'it's so good - oooh baby' (similar to porn but tone it down), a sexy striptease always projects confidence, undressing him, putting your finger on his lips to be quiet & moving him also projects confidence. knowledge of positions is also good (sorry to mention but again porn is a good proxy). finally it's an advantage to be good at oral sex & give compliments. finally you'll be good in bed if you are truly into it & enjoying the moment - it's tough to fake having fun (though some girls and guys do). enjoy
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reader, lena1 +, writes (17 April 2009):
lena1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank every one for their answers.
i appreciate your help
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): Your husband should be rewarding you for showing an interest in turning him on, not throw your inexperience in your face. My suggestion is to start experimenting with masturbation, so that you don't need him to show you how to turn him on. If the newly found confidence doesn't do it for him, then he's controlling, and probably married you because you are naive and inexperienced.
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reader, lena1 +, writes (16 April 2009):
lena1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for all your answer.
i hope i hear other people s ideas too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): This is the man's point of view:
A woman is good in bed (in a man's eyes) if she makes the man think that he's the best lover she could possibly ever have had, past or present, that he makes her melt in his arms, that no man could ever satisfy her like he can.
It's more to do with the male ego than the female performance or athleticism, but a bit of athleticism doesn't go amiss once in a while. The man will say a woman is good in bed if she screams loudly for him to do it again, tells him he's the best thing since sliced bread, tells him he's got the biggest dick she could ever imagine possible and that he satisfies her completely. Even if he hasn't or doesn't.
And that's about it!
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reader, lena1 +, writes (16 April 2009):
lena1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni thank every body for the answer,i want to have informations because i know nothing and my husband had lot of wemen in his life .so i want to prove to him that i am good i just need to know how,when the man tell you what to do its not like when you do it by yourself,i want to surprise him.
he knows that i have never slept with any other man only him,and one day i was trying to turn him on,and he told me i dont even know how to turn man on,how am i suppose to know and i have never been with other man(that was my answer )than he told me try and figure it out.
so i think he wants me to do something by myself not him telling me every time what to do.
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reader, b.rye +, writes (16 April 2009):
 The best way to be good in bed? Have as much sex as you can with your husband. Experience, along with some good educational literature, is the cure for inexperience.
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reader, Dazed~Confused  +, writes (16 April 2009):
 Project confidence. The rest of it you will figure out as you go along, both of you. But, from my experience, guys like someone who is comfortable with their body and are able to show it. You don't need to know a lot of different positions or anything like that, the 2 of you will figure out what works for you as a couple as you go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): Good grief, you're married and you're asking this question? Wow. Let me just say you have lots to learn.
Luckily, there's more info on sex out there than you could possibly ever get through, so start reading. Go down to your local book store, or amazon.com, and if you can, spoil yourself with as many sex books as you can. Try Scarleteen.com for the really basic stuff.
Generally, "good in bed" means you're good to have sex with. You're good at sex. This is something you don't get to be by marrying young and a virgin :D Haha just kidding, seriously to be "good in bed" takes practice and time with someone you trust.
In the meantime, do you own a vibrator? Are you orgasming regularly? Do you know where your clitoris and g-spot is and does your husband? Before you try to be a good you-know-what, you should try and make sure you yourself are getting satisfied in bed, too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): Men are very sexual and just looking at your is enough to get him going. You are inexperienced and that should be a turn-on for your husband coz he's going to teach you. Get ideas here but also ask and allow him to teach you.
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