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writes:im talking to a girl whos a lil younger.. she knows my ex-gf whos really popular... do u think it'll make her more interested if i talked to her about my ex... but i like this new girl.. or dont bring her up at all ...
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): Dont bring her up. Shes just gping to think your not over your ex gf yet, so then she wont go for you. Try not to mention her at all, shes just going to feel uncomfortable.
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reader, art guy  +, writes (22 June 2008):
Dont do it buddy! not yet, let her ask you, that is when she will be ready to hear about the ex.
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (21 June 2008):
 Hi Hunny
I went out with a guy who did nothing but talk about his ex wives and he spoke about them in such a happy way like this was all good memorys to him and it is a total put off..Not only do you wonder why they split up but you wonder why if he is interested in you he would spend precious time talking about his ex and you get the feeling he may still have feelings so you dont really get to attached. Yes its ok to talk about ex partners if in particular you had a bad experience so your futour partner knows a little about your past, That can sometimes help people understand you better, But in general if you go chatting away about your ex g/f then this girl will think you still have feeling and may back off hunny TAKE CARE WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, Skeez +, writes (21 June 2008):
 No dont talk to her about your ex. The one thing that really turns off a girl is when a guy constantly mentions his ex in every single topic. Even when its not even relevant to talk about her.
All she will think is that your not over her and wont even bother trying with you.
If you want her attention...give her ALL the attention you want to give her. Compliments are good. Dont be to forward about it though becuase some girls, including myself get embarressed and sometimes uncomfortable when a guy seems to pushy and compliments everything about her.
Invite her out to the cinema with friends, then after you have been with her for a while going out to fast food restaurants or shopping you will be fine going alone together.
just dont mention the ex at all.
goodluck
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): Always remember this; for the rest of your life; the quickest turn off for any girl is a guy that is going on about his ex; she will think yu are not over the ex; only using her etc;
THUS
talking about an ex is OUT!
Compliment her, ask about her?Make her feel good by showing interest in what she likes and wanting to get to know more about her!
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): Always remember this; for the rest of your life; the quickest turn off for any girl is a guy that is going on about his ex; she will think yu are not over the ex; only using her etc;
THUS
talking about an ex is OUT!
Compliment her, ask about her?Make her feel good by showing interest in what she likes and wanting to get to know more about her!
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): Nononononooooo! Never, ever mention past girlfriends unless your looking to be a complete turn-off and for an early night - alone!
Always talk to a girl about her favourite subject - herself! After a while, she will realise she's going on a bit and will then want to know all about her second favourite subject - you!
Good luck!
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (21 June 2008):
 Ex-girlfriends are a touchy subject. If you talk highly about the ex, it will crush the ego of the new one, and thats not good. The new girl will think she has a lot to live up to, instead of getting more interested in you. It will make her feel like she is nothing compared to her. Not cool. I like to hear about the flaws of my partners ex's, and how much better I am compared to them. It doesnt make him look bad, it makes me look good;-) And thats how you want your girlfriend to feel. You dont want her to feel like she isn't good enough for you. Don't boast about your ex. Not fair to your new lady.
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