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writes:Dear Cupid,my ex of eight months dumped me 5 days ago. I am well aware that I'm only 17 years of age but without him I feel empty. He's currently going through a bad time in his life, getting kicked out of his home and his parents telling him that they want nothing to do with him. In the past ( and a day or two before our break-up) he's told me he wants to be with me forever. Now, he is very stubborn and such. I rang him the other day to see what the deal is and he told me he didnt love me anymore and refused to answer me when I asked did he miss me. I slightly doubt that he doesn't love me but he refuses to get back with me. I miss him so much. Please help me, all I do lately is cry and it's driving my friends around the bend.From,Emmy Reply to this Question
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reader, rcn  +, writes (8 October 2007):
 Give him time. You need to remember guys are not girls, and not just in the few physical changes. Girls when they have problems, they share with friends and seek comfort. Guys look at problems as "these are mine, and I'll deal with them myself.
Imagine being a child and getting rejected by your parents. What do you think that does? It can take him from being in love with you to feeling inadequate to be with you. I don't know what caused their reaction, but parents really need to understand this behavior of kicking a child out and making them feel worthless can cause huge long term issues for that child.
I would just wait it out. If he's going to come back to you, let him feel as if he's handled the issues he's working on. He's probably just as confused about his life as you are about what happened. See guys when they work on issues, they don't like to bring other people with them. It's almost like saying, I'm going into hell now, and out of love, I don't want you joining me because it's not a nice place to be.
I hope everything works out for you. Take care.
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reader, heavenly_angel +, writes (8 October 2007):
 I truly know what your going through. Just cause your 17 doesnt mean you dont have feelings. Im goin through a similar situation. I think that men really can be bull headed sometimes. I think you should find things to occupy your time. I had to or else my ex would be in my brain 24 seven. Its hard and everyone keeps tellin me it will get better although I have yet to see it. Just sit and pray on it and if it was meant to be then god will make it happen. Take care.
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