| A ,
anonymous
writes: I have been living with my boyfriend for 7 months now. He works and makes enough to survive. I am an international university student so I can only attend school, not work. Lately hes been pressuring me to find a job because I had a part time job before (a temp job) but it's finished now. It is very difficult for me to find a job because I am not yet landed. He had the same job and the same amount of money before he met me, I cook and clean the home when I'm finished with school. I find him very abusive and I dont understand why he's pressuring me so much to find a job if he knows I can't find a job easily right now. I know he's stressed out etc and I've been trying to look for temp jobs in the meanwhile. I am really stressed out and depressed because of my situation and the way he reacts. What should I do?
View related questions:
depressed, money, university Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, madam treudeau +, writes (28 April 2005):
Where do you really see yourself with this guy? I believe that, if he were really interested in your well-being, that he would be a little more considerate towards you and your employment status at this time.I'm getting that you are a student in college from another country, am I correct? You have trouble getting an employment visa, you want to work but, you're having difficulties in finding the right job for you. You don't have a green card. Have you tried posting in grocery store bulletin boards the things that you can and are able to do? Often employment agencies can help, provided your work history is in good standing and up to date. As to your b/f, if that is what you're calling him, perhaps he's looking out for you in ways that you're not bringing to light. Perhaps he is looking for you to get your green card or work visa become a little more self supporting and responsible for your own life situations. Have you considered taking on a job at school, like tutorial assistant or in the cafeteria or maybe your learning resources center? Perhaps his expenses have accumulated to where he alone is no longer able to afford to pay them on his own and is looking to you for help in turning his debts into credits in both your favors. Mind you, I can only offer my opinion and insight; you are the one that has to decide and act accordingly to the situation at hand. Do not in anyway be persuaded into doing anything that you will later regret.
|
