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anonymous
writes:It all started when we started dating in January, I found out he was friends with this girl named Janai. She would call him Joshiebear, write little “cute” posts on his wall everyday, saying she loved him and asking when he would come visit her. I asked him why she called him that and what she was talking about and to make her stop. He would always ignore the question or say its nothing, telling me he “doesn’t care about petnames”. We decided to take a break in March, but we still functioned like a couple for the next two or three months. This girl was still completely in the picture. They talked EVERY DAY. For hours on end, texting all night. It wasnt until June that I got him to tell her to stop calling him Joshiebear. When we got into little fights and stuff, he would go straight to her, telling her all of his secrets, things he never told me. We had an agreement that we needed to get to know each other better, yet he spent all of his time talking to her. When he got a webcam last month, he added me on Skype but never let me video call him. I came to find out it was because he was talking to her. She would make statuses dedicated to him, talking about how much fun they had last night, and how tired she was because he wanted to stay up playing truth or dare. I’m not dumb. I know what happens when a slutty girl and guy play truth or dare over webcam. A few days ago I broke down, and decided to let him go. If he wants her, he can have her. But what makes me the most hurt, is when I saw what she looked like and what kind of girl she was. She can’t even compare to me. This is a girl who auditioned for Glee. This is a girl who pulls her shirt down in all of her pictures. This is a girl who can’t have a serious conversation. We are almost complete opposites. When I told my ex that I know about his relationship with Janai, he didnt even respond to it. All I know is, he deactivated his facebook account, and hasnt gotten on Skype since. That may not have anything to do with me though. I’m just so hurt that he ditched me for a girl who lives on the opposite of the country, who does everything he said he didnt like, things he made me change about myself. How do I move on? Im starting to miss him. Do you think he even cares ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2011): you know what?balls to him ,why to go on wanting love and recognition from someone who is not even worth the dust on your foot?someone who has bad choice and underdeveloped values ?really ,i don't see a lovely girl like you wasting any part of your life with this goofball.look for a guy who has the man in him.who will love you,care for you,and respect you .
he has always lied to you,cheated on you emotionally,tried to CHANGE you!moreover he himself does not know where to go in life.no direction.shallow and popularity craving.
you can do way better .no he doesn't care,and it doesn't matter cos you are NOT wasting your time on him anymore. he is too senseless to bother even of his own life i guess.immature and unmanly ,not gonna change by any means in the near or distant future. i am sure that when you move on to someone better,and more worthwhile you will be proud!and when you look back at this guy u'll be laughing your ass off!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2011): He doesn't care Sweetie. And really, he was a cheating Loser. If he thinks its normal to have the hots for a girl who can't even be in real life, a friend and support, then its all about the sex.You deserve a genuine guy that will appreciate you AS IS, and want to spend as much time with you.Chances are she does that stuff with a lot of other guys so really; you have class, style, standards, and will make the RIGHT Guy proud to be at your side.You are young, attractive, intelligent. You'll find someone soon enough. Just hang in there.*hugs*
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