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writes:Hi, i actually posted this same querie before but it was edited so it was nothing at all to do with my problem so here it is again lol. I have been with my bf for about 6 months but i have always felt really nervous about initiating anything sexual, i have always left it to him to initiate everything, even kissing i feel stupid trying to kiss him in case he doesnt want me to but recently he has said that he feels really uncomfortable making all the moves and feels like he is forcing me even though this is completely untrue and i love having sex with him and kissing him etc. but i feel too embarassed to change now because i feel like he will be scrutinising for change and i feel so uncomfortable and stupid but he says if i dont change then hes not sure that we are right for each other if this is the way i am and its the way i make him feel....what should i do? i really dont wanna lose him..
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reader, daniellexxxx +, writes (18 April 2008):
 Start opening up to him and try make a move on him for some reason. If you cant then it's simple your not ment to be together you shouldnt feel embarassed if your with someone and you love them you should feel 100% comfatable, talk to him about you issue and stop knocking your confidence.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): how long have you been with this guy firstly? you sound to me like you may have low confidence and low self esteem i would work on this area to become more confident i wouldnt worry about losing him, guys tend t make the moves anyway maybe sit and talk to your partner about how you feel but i am sure if he loves you this would not be a reason to seprate with you
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reader, WildZBill  +, writes (18 April 2008):
Maybe you can teach him about the different types of kissing.The Auntie kiss- lips puckered and so tight that you could not slide a toothpick between them. No sexual interest here.The friendly kiss- lips closed but not puckered. No sexual interest, but some warmth.The interested kiss- mouth open enough that the teeth don't collide. Very interested, even sexual.The 'French' kiss- Mouth open and exploring tongues. Extremely sexual, extremely willing.Then tell him he doesn't need to talk, just feel.
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reader, x-kitycatlok-x +, writes (18 April 2008):
 Why don't you just try to initiate things? Think about how special it will make him feel that you want to kiss him and have sex with him and stuff. I'm sure he'd feel honoured. Surprising him with a kiss can never go wrong. The surprise ones are the best ones. ^_^Wishing you the best.xxx
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