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*pringluv2
writes:Is it possible for an older man 52 to love a younger woman 21. Why would a older gentleman be interested in having a family with someone this age instead of an older experienced woman who would have her priorities together like him.
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reader, lesley.A  +, writes (12 June 2009):
i have an opportunity to get with a man, of 20 yrs difference, in age, and am like you, sort of, wondering should i, he gives me alot of things than any bloke my age, but am so unsure of the future, as his children, are all grown up, and i have 4. he ticks all my boxes, and he says he's in love with me, his wife past away 4yrs ago, and he has only been in love with her, and noew is in love with me. i was so shocked.
I aint got a clue wot to do, cause i really like him, but wonder will it last.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2009): Because you're young and attractive and one hell of an ego boost. Duh!!
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reader, springluv2 +, writes (6 April 2009):
springluv2 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI thank everyone for their responses first. Second we have a nice family and after reading about everyone's suggestions I came to conclude I know he is a good man he just has had ups and downs. Im am going to tell him that I am the one because it feels right. For example im studying to be a pharmacist [not an easy major] he just started talking about buying us a house saying that we will wait some time. Its a lengthy process and I want to enjoy it with him and my son. Third, he said he is going to leave me things as I have no clue what that means but how do I break it to him that we need life insurance because I don't know if he has any policies. Its a touchy subject you know.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (6 April 2009):
 In my humble opinion, this is a very good question, and one that is sure to produce a few blisters on some skins :-). But here's my two cents.
I don't know the fifty-two year old man involved, or the twenty-one year old girl, our poster. So I will speak in general terms, the opinion that would first come to my mind if they told me "A, who is 52 years old, is interested in B, who is 21". Poster, please notice that "A" can be either male or female, and so can "B".
The age gap between a 52 year old and a 21 year old is huge. Those thirty-one years mean that the older person has a much different perspective on life, and very different expectations. Correctly so. I am sure that your interests, your view of life, your plans, your idea of what life is all about, et cetera, are absolutely different. I believe that your boyfriend ignores that huge difference because you're young, which is not to say little.
Did he really speak about having a family with you, meaning having children? What were his exact words?
In ten years only, when you will be very tender 31, he'll be sixty-six. The difference between you two will be even bigger by then.
I am sorry to say this, but I believe you should not get involved with this man.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (6 April 2009):
 At 52, most women are finished with child rearing. Men are "hardwired" buy nature to seek out mates who are fertile! With a relationship with this kind of age difference, you have to make sure that you are both expecting the same things in a relationship. Many men at this age don't want another family (assuming they have already had children). At 52, a man would be watching his children enter university when he is approaching 70.
You are probably at crossed purposes here, but if he IS willing to entertain the idea of your becoming a mother and you are interested, make sure he had lots of life insurance after you are married and make sure that you are the soul beneficiary, if you are raising a young family. I'm not sure that this is an ideal relationship if you do want a family, it's rather unfair on the children to expect that they will be adults without a grandfather for their own children.
On the other hand, if you aren't interested in children, and you are simpatico, then by all means, feel free!
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reader, Djmclucas113 +, writes (6 April 2009):
 well usually in these cases it's cuz he is more interested in u physically most guys would rather have a hot young girl then a woman who's hair is turning gray and getting wrinkley skin but idk the guy so he may like u for who u r but most of the time it's just the pure fact that u r young
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2009): hello, i have a question. is it you or him that is worried about the age thing. i think you have had several questions about a older man and a younger woman. honey i would rather have a man older. my b/f is 38 years years older than me. we get along great. he said he would rather have a younger woman. it keeps him young. and as for you. with all you have going on you should have your priorities together you have a small child. he put the pics away that should be enough proof that she cares for you.
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