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writes:I was just wondering if this is okay for me to do:Me and my ex broke up a year ago, and well things were okay and all. But she left me due to different reason, and well we have remained friends during this time. Now a year later and after dating a new guy for a bit, the same thing I went through, she is now going through (guy dumped her and is having problems with life). I am going to bring her out to a basketball game this coming Saturday just as friends to make her feel better. My friend's and family say "You can do what ever you want, but honestly your being way to nice to this girl who left you and didn't treat you half as nice as you treated her". I know this, but I'd rather do whats right and try to cheer her up by doing this rather then let her sit in self pity (which is what I did for about 6 months or so). My ex has also fully apologized for any wrong do she has ever done to me in the past.I am going through with this no matter what anybody else says. I really just want second opinions to know if this will be viewed as either me making a move on her or will it be viewed as just being a good guy. I am over her, I just want this girl to be happy and to know that she is never going to be alone.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (21 January 2011):
Hi there. There's nothing wrong in taking her out as friends, just as long as she knows this and doesn't read any more into it.
It's good you have remained friends after your breakup. This doesn't always happen.
It's a nice thing to do to take her to a basketball game. While you are out together, don't try to act like her boyfriend, just keep it plutonic (no sex). It's ok at the end of the night to give her a kiss on the cheek, but no long passionate mouth kissing. Don't go there.
Don't worry about what other people say. It's not their business. They are probably just concerned that you might get hurt.
If it feels right to you - to take you out to the basketball game - then go right ahead and do it.
Enjoy yourselves and take care.
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reader, SweetSmoochy +, writes (20 January 2011):
 I think you're just being a nice guy. Just make sure to keep your reasons in that court instead of in the court of trying to prove things to people or control others.
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