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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:She's in a relationship with her bf for 5 years now. These 5 years wasn't smooth for her. She has frequent verbal conflicts with him, broke up but pacthed countless times. 2 years ago, she told me her bf slapped her but still remained in this relationship. She tells me she has went through a lot of emotional hurt in this relationship and he is very possessive. She always thought he would change his character and possessiveness whenever she forgives him but ends up being emotionally hurt again and the cycle has been going on and on. She tells me its difficult to break up with him even though realising the nature of her relationship. She just doesn't has the strength to move on after breaking up with. It has been 5 years and her relationship still remains the same. Will he ever change or will she have the strength and courage to end this for good?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2010): As we told you before OP the answer is no.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/will-she-ever-be-able-to-end-her.html
It's not going to happen between you and her. You can come back and ask this as many times as you want it's not going to change anything. If you're looking for someone to tell you what your heart wants to hear you won't find it because we can't tell you that, it would be lies and unhelpful for you.
He has and you never will. Even if she finds the strength to leave him she's not going to leave him for you.
Find another girl, this is not the one for you.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (3 September 2010):
 People never really change- unless they decide on their own they want to change. But they will not change because someone else wants or asks or begs that they change ,not even if it's someone dear and near. Change only comes from within, not from outside influences.
Obviously, the one who should want to change should be your friend who is trapped inside an abusive relationship. Will she ver find the courage and the strength etc.etc ?. Who knows. Probably if the situation becames really unbearable and unmanageable - when staying there will feel more painful than the idea of living. But it may take quite some time to get to that point. So,in case you are asking because you have a romantic interest in this woman,
honestly I would not be too optimistic and I would start moving on with my life.
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