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writes: I went to my sister’s (who’s very controlling and stubborn) wedding and my girlfriend join me as well. Even though my sister and gf don’t get along that well. Everyone kept saying my gf is going up stage the bride and her dress left a little imagination. When we got to her wedding late (we miss the I dos). My sister was angry at us she ask us to left. Of course my girlfriend being herself gave her some lip and the finger. She hasn’t talk to me or girlfriend since then. Will she get over it?
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reader, TornHeart  +, writes (31 January 2009):
 Wow, your girlfriend sounds like a slutty bitch. First of all you don't wear skanky dresses to weddings. Second of all, why would you bring someone your sister doesn't like to HER wedding. You need to care more about your family than your gross girlfriend. Get your priorities straight man!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2008): I can't believe you two didn't turn up on time. It would have been a good chance to rectify your gf and your sister's relationship, by showing some courtesy, but no you arrived late, and your girlfriend had the utter cheek to swear at her, tell off your girlfriend.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (23 December 2008):
 What the hell kind of person deliberately pisses off the bride on her special day? Your girlfriend knew that what she did was wrong...
For everyone to behave and show some class for her one special day, your sister ain't asking for much...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008): if my brother misses the start of my wedding i will be soooooo angry, and another thing - if his girlfriend gave me lip at my wedding i'd never speak to her again and should my brother take her side, well, he too can piss right off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008): Well, as I see it there are 3 people here who acted improperly. 1st, your sister overreacted to your being late. But that is only a minor example of bad behavior, and I think on her wedding day she can be excused. 2nd, your girlfriend may eventually become your wife, and then she will be more important than your family (because she will be your new family), but until the day you and her are married, your family has to come first (unless they are unreasonable, but asking you to come to her wedding on time, and not have your girlfriend upstage her is a very reasonable request). Therefore you mess that one up by not talking to your girlfriend and making sure you were ontime for your sisters wedding. 3rd, your girlfriend needs to grow up, get some manners, and probably some self-esteem. Anyone who tries to 'upstage' a bride at a wedding is very insecure herself. She has issues, it might be maturity, or insecurity, or maybe both at this time.
Bottom line, you need to appoligize for your sister, and if your girlfriend won't then appologize for her, but keep in mind that there will always be a rift, and you better think long and hard before you make this girlfriend a serious one. Girlfriends are a dime a dozen, I dated many girls who 'put out' and were 'hot', but I married the one that was the most beautiful, but not a slutty sexy thing, and my best friend. We are married for years and years and have kids and are still each others best friend.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (23 December 2008):
 I think your sister has every right to be angry with you, that was her one special day and her brother wasnt there to enjoy it with her! And to top it all, your disrespectful girlfriend swore at her and made a scene. Surely your family is more important to you than the girlfriend you have at the moment? Why are you with someone that treats your family like that? She clearly has no manners, no respect and does not care about you or your family's feelings. You shouldn't excuse your girlfriends behaviour, you should get her to do some serious apologising. And you have some serious work to do if you want your sister to ever forget what you did.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008): Sounds like your girlfriend purposely wore that dress just to achieve pissing your sister off, Something that could have been avoided by saying something before you got to the wedding. It's her day and that was just so disrespectful, I wouldn't want anything to do with her either. Being late, was it necessary or did she plan that to. How about getting another girlfriend she obviously has no respect for your family.
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (23 December 2008):
I'm not trying to be mean, but this sounds like it could be an episode for a sitcom. I imagine that your sister is feeling very sad, however, because this was a day that she was probably looking forward to all her life. I hope that you can patch things up with your sister. I don't think she'll ever forgive your girlfriend, though. Your girlfriend's behavior was very unclassy and whether your sister gets over what happened or not, I think you both should take the high road and apologize to her.If I ever were to change my mind and decide to get married, I want it to be like the last scene in a movie I once saw, where the bride and groom are sitting on their respective horses, and the padre says the vows and then the bride and groom ride off into the sunset. I don't want any drama.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (23 December 2008):
 You couldn't manage to be on time for one of the most important days in your sister's life? I'd be pretty torqued with you too. I'd probably eventually forgive you, but can no one in this family show some class? And your girlfriend's manners leave a lot to be desired as well.
Apologize for being late and then apologize for your girlfriend's rude gesture and foul language. Better still would be that your girlfriend apologize, but I doubt she has enough grace and dignity to manage it.
Maybe your sister will have cooled down enough to be able to see that perhaps she overreacted, but asking you to leave doesn't warrant 'lip' and the finger from your underdressed girlfriend.
Courtesy and manners and treating others as one would be treated makes getting through life a whole lot less dramatic and traumatic.
Good luck.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (23 December 2008):
 Ahh one time you never mess with a woman is at her wedding. Never. She may get over it in time, but your gonna have to wait. Showing up late and any dress that shows up the bride is something to not do in the future.
A thing to do is get your gf, get a really really nice pressi and see your sister and say your sorry. She wont be over straight away but its a start
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reader, sexseahot +, writes (23 December 2008):
 It will take time for her to get over it. This was her wedding, it's a very big day for most of us ladies and we want it to go as well as possible. You, being her brother, showing up late doesn't make for a perfect day for her. I would understand being upset. You must have been super late if you missed the I do's since that does come at the end. Maybe you and your g/f should apologize to her for showing up late. It wasn't fair for her to ask you to leave, but then again, it is HER wedding and it should go how she wants it to go. Again, it will take time for her to get over it since it was a big day for her. Give her some time and maybe even apologize.
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