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writes:Hello, i have met the perfect girl and i want to spend the rest of my life with her... but... im so shure that we will be together forever im afraid i will lose the chance of being with other women.Its not that i want to cheat or anything and trust me i would´nt dump her for anything, its just, everyone else will have chances with other girls and will have sex a lot and stuff but i will just be with that one girl.Im not unhappy its just... cant find the words... missing out on something, you know?like, all kids have stone marbels they play with and they trade, win and lose with em, and all i have is one beautiful glass marble wich i realy like.If i play with it i will lose it 100% and get a lot of smaller, lesser worth stone marbels, but if i keep it, i miss out on the fun of playing, you understand? Im only 15 and this girl is the first on all the three bases and id hate to lose her, i know what you are sayin "more trains come along" but she and and i match, trust me.am i abnormal, thats what i ask. what can i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008): thanks, feel a lot better now
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reader, vanillafrost  +, writes (23 December 2008):
 You still very young, but since ur convinced that she is THE ONE.. I will take this serious in my comment.I think you are very lucky to have found THE ONE! We all date. Some ppl will date to have sex(in my opinion not good), the experience etc, or they fall in love.. But at the end we are all looking for THE ONE to spend the rest of our lives with! Not just because we are in love, but we see a future with them.I was like you before... I rejected someone who was perfect for me. But I was young and curious about other ppl, just like you. I am older now I regret that I didnt take him seriously at that time.. but it is already too late for me now..Are u willing to trade 'The One' in exchange for a lot of dates that might end up with breaking up?I hope u will make the right choice and won't end up regretting it,like me. **Wish u all the luck**
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reader, Anaphora  +, writes (23 December 2008):
 Why do you want the chance to be with other women? Is it because your other friends will have been with other girls? You talked about stone marbles and compared them to relationships. Relationships are not like collections. With a collection, the more you have the better, but with a relationship, it's more important to have one that is great. It sounds like you really like this girl. You will not be missing out on anything if you stay with her. People have many relationships because they haven't found the right person and are trying to find them by dating different people. Remember that you don't have to always follow what your friends do. Do what you feel is right. If you feel it's right to stay with this girl then do that. What is right for other people may not always be right for you. Good luck!
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