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writes:Will my partner love our future baby as much as his child from a previous relationship? Hi, me and my wonderful partner are trying for a baby getting married and moving to a bigger place and i couldn't be happier but he has a lovely 5 year old son from a previous relationship. Me his son and ex get on very well but i'm worried that he wont love our baby as much because his son is his first born and golden child. He will not be left out but i'm worried he will play on this and our baby we will be rejected
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reader, eddie  +, writes (29 September 2007):
 Instead of thinking about the joy of the child you'll share, you've focused on "creating" a scenario that has not even happened.
If you move to a bigger place will he spend more time working to pay the bills, thereforre neglecting you?
If you gain weight will he leave you?
If your neighbor is pretty will he cheat?
Will you live to 100?
Who knows?
You are making a problem that doesn't exist. If you focus on this thought, when you do have a child you'll create issues where they don't exist. Be more positive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2007): My mum always said that she was scared having a second child because she was afraid there was no way she could love anything as much as she did her first (my brother). She said she was delighted to discover that love multiplies, not halves, with each child.
He'll love this child with every bit of his heart & soul.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (28 September 2007):
 As a father myself, I couldn't see with the relationship you described that your child would receive different treatment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2007): Of course he will! I tell you now, the love that he will have for your child will be the top of its league, he loves his son in a different way for completely different reasons.
I wish you both lots of happiness. Good luck with the baby making x
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