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reader, pebble  +, writes (5 June 2009):
 If you feel this way then why the hell are you together?
Wouldn't it be much easier if you were single? Then you could sleep with whoever the hell you want...
You don't seem to have a very high opinion of him so I don't get why you're still there...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): If you have kids your vaginas loose anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): Hes working to make sure there is a roof above your head and food on your table, hes tired because hes been slaving away all day and of course your not gonna be in the mood after that. It doesnt excuse you going off and sleeping with another man. Sure, everyone has their needs but if you were that desperate you could have bought a dildo! If you love someone you couldnt bring yourself to cheat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): what nonsense is this about him working. damnit, he is working to provide for you and his kid. if you cannot keep your legs closed then do not make excuses. you cheated because you wanted to not because he is always working. then if he doesn't work, you will complain and then what- go out and f*ck someone else?
please grow up. you are childish and sooooooo immature. you are not concerned that you cheated, you are more worried whether he can smell it. darling, GROW UP. and account for your actions. stop being loose and having no morals
at least your man tries to provide. and what does he get - a cheat
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk.why is it ok for a man to come home tired and not acknowledge his family. Work is to provide but whom your providing for also needs attn. Im not saying what I did is right. But why is it okay for hime to put as much effor into his relationship as he does his job.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): If you were actually concerned for your "family's" welfare you wouldn't have slept around in the first place. Grow some principles and face the consequences of your actions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): Can I just ask about what is with this excuse that I hear cheating women always say "he works". It makes no sense, he's working to feed and clothe your family and you think that that's something that can be held against him?
What, do women somehow think that working men are having it easy? And that coming home tired after being away from the family all day is men being whiny?
I find this accusation terrible seeing how my father worked his back off for my family and sometimes then having to come home and face having his hardwork being belittled by members of the family, it just feels insulting to me when women say this about men because then it's belittling my father (and everyone else's fathers) efforts.
Sure your boyfriend does a have his duty to you and it's something that he should be working on - but never blame him 'working' because that's insulting.
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reader, Dark_Storm +, writes (5 June 2009):
 no matter what you say or how hard you try and defend yourself or what you did it doesnt make it right.the best thing for you to do regardless of weather or not there is a child involved is to tell him - otherwise someone else, dont think he wont find out because these thigs have a nasty way of coming back to bite you - if you tell him at least there is a slight chance you can rebuild the trust in your relationship if nothing else.i have a child myself and im at college full time and wrking part time - he works 12 hours everyday of the week - and have never even thought of sleeping with someone else so this is really no excuse.unless you want things to blow out of proportion to the fact you cant get him back the only thing to do is be honist...mutch lovexxx
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reader, babymama99  +, writes (5 June 2009):
 Will he notice? Yes, if you give him an STD because you can't stay faithful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): Yes. He will notice. Your pussy will be loose and there will probably be a red flush. Better to just fess up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe have a child toether, but I explain to him my needs and he brushes it off. I wouldn't like to be cheated on and I know it controdicts what im saying. I wouldn't want to tell him because I know he would be hurt. It was once which doesn't make it right. Telling him would potentually break up our family. He works all the time ima stay at home mom and in school. And he it always to tired to touch me. However were not married.
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reader, jj. +, writes (5 June 2009):
dear female 18-21,
put your self in his shoes..how would you feel if he did the same thing to you..
he fell inlove with your interqualities and not your size or shape down there..it sounds like youve already moved on from him..i guess dear female ,you dont really look at this relationship as good anymore..iam sorry to hear that..
youve done something that well maybe the best thing is to move on and continue on your merry way..life is full of ups and downs..your boyfriend doesnt need you for that ,,if your really interested in your boyfriends feelings then stop what your contemplating and get more bonding with your boyfriend now..if thats not your cup of tea ..move on and dont hurt him in the process..take care and i do wish you two the best ..
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): Firstly i think you should be more worried about the fact you have CHEATED on your boyfriend not whether he'll notice youre not as tight or not! What you've done is dispicable and you will break his heart if he finds out! In fact he should know, he has the right to!
And if your gonna be a coward tell him you used a dildo.
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reader, Dark_Storm +, writes (5 June 2009):
to be brutally honist, i think you should tell him that you had sex witht someone else as it is completely unfair to lie to him and brake his trust when he cares about you - however the fact that you show no remorse for what you did probably means that you dont care about him at least as mutch as you think.
a relationship isnt about just sex...its about respect caring and togetherness and you seem to be giving none of this so why are you with him in the first place?
its obvious that not only are you using him but also this other guy for plesure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): How would your boyfriend notice the change down there, did you sleep with Mandingo?
If he notices, it won't be coz of how you are down there but coz of how you're acting.
But the bigger thing, you cheated, shouldn't you be woman enough and confess.
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