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writes:I have been dating my boyfriend for four months now and he will not meet my family. I have asked him a few times to meet them by inviting him to events and what not and he still will not. I come from a big, tight-knit, Italian family. My family is not initimidating, they are not going to grill him with questions, and they are extremely nice. He keeps saying he will and soon but has not made the effort. I have asked him if there was anything I could do to make te situation better and he said he does not know. I'm starting to stress about this, one reason because my family is very anxious and excited to meet him and keep asking me about it. I want to give him a couple more months by giving him opportunities to meet them and I am just praying every night he comes to his senses. I just don't know how to go about it anymore because I have caused two arguments about it already. Please help if you can. Any suggestions will help. Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, youngandconfused90 +, writes (12 March 2008):
 honey,
Meeting the parents is a big step for any relationship. If he's been hurt in past relationships its going to be harder for him to make this move. Take things a little slower. Its only been four months focus on getting to know him and no one else. I know what your going through my family is that same way and it makes these things difficult, just explain you are trying to take things slow and get to know him before bring anyone else into the equation. Give this relationship a couple more months and if he still refuses sit down and calmly explain your situation and your feelings. Things will work out. The more he gets to know you and like you the more he will want to meet the folks, but the first meeting make sure its just your parents or siblings. Big groups of family can be kind of over-whelming. Good luck and im sure once the pressure is off things will fall into place.
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii  +, writes (10 March 2008):
 sit him down don't get angry with him and ask him calmly why hes not happy seeing your parents, tell your parents if you have to that he is uncomfortable with meeting them and tell them he doesn't mean offence by it.
hope this works
x
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