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writes:My boyfriend is an animal in bed...I love what we do. When we started getting intimate he told me he have never performed oral on any woman. I truly did not complain but it was kinda funny because my ex-boyfriend was an expert in oral down south pleasuring. I still did try not to compare the two as I was content with our lovemaking.Three months later, he surprised me when he grabbed me held me down and began to do oral on me. I was excited not because it was good but the thought of I was the first woman he is doing this to means a lot to me and shows how much he loves me.Since then he ahs done amybe three or four other times. The last time he actually was down there for a long time. Well I guess it is time for me to start telling him how it should be done since its becoming something he is trying to perfect. The problem is I don't know how. I don't want him to feel awkward either. I have a feeling that each time he does, he is improving and getting better so no need to rush. Is this true that it will perfect itself by its own self? I can imagine that my ex probably got really good cos' he did a lot so why rush right?If anyone have any suggestions for me please let me know. Right now he thinks he is doing right cos' I am enjoying it but enjoying the thrill of knowing anytime he does it, its a period where he is intensely in love with me. So not necessarily because he is that good. So help please if you were successful in helping your man in the going downsouth department.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all. I choose to want to guide him but I don't think you all know where the problem lies. The problem is I don't know what guys do to get me aroused like that so If i'm guiding him i will be guiding blindly myself. I figure he knows what gets me on because I cum even when he fingers me cos'he know sthe right spot. So that is not the problem the problem is teachning him what to do with his tongue perhaps. The technique is what I can't teach him so I was expecting the guys to comment on this.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 December 2011):
 There's a ballet dancer named Roberto Bolle who is perhaps the best male classic dancer there's around nowadays. He's blessed with an unbelievable natural talent, a "je ne sais quoi " that makes critics scratch their head and say " How the heck does he do that ". This guy is big for a classic dancer, way taller and somewhat heavier than most- and yet , the levity, fluidity and swiftness of his movements seems to defy physics- he's a natural.
Nevertheless, he keeps training 6 hours a day under the guidance of his teacher , an older , experienced ex etoile, less naturally blessed but very strong technically.
Where I am getting at, is that you can be a " natural " as much as you want, but if you want to reach true excellence in any given field, you need to practice practice and keep practicing , and not at random, but under proper guide : precise, patient, attentive and firm.
Draw your conclusions...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2011): "yeah keep doing that, that's great." "mmm, a little bit higher/harder/softer, that's it" "do that other thing again"
Don't tell him straight out, just guide him through the process. Your ex was probably so good because a girl before you did that with him or he had a lot of practice.
OP he's down there for you, he's not going to mind you guiding him, in fact he will appreciate it. Don't make it some unsexy, stop/start thing, just guide him as he goes.
Another way which is also a lot of fun is for you to show him. Get him to kneel in front of you and both of you masturbate, let him see the areas, the motions and the pressures you like applied to those areas and then let him get to work.
Do not stop him, do not criticize him mid lick. Make it fun with lots of encouragement.
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reader, Reasoning  +, writes (17 December 2011):
Your Ex probably got so good because of all the girls he's done it too, their are obvious methods that are almost universally liked.Being that your his first partner he's done it with, it may seem like he's getting better because he's getting more comfortable with it so can do more experimenting. But every woman is unique and you know exactly what you love thanks to your ex. Don't relate him to your ex, but telling him what you like down their will give him more confidence because he will know you love it. I believe the only way he will get significantly better is if he's aware of what you like, because guys can't always read a girls mind ;)
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