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writes:I feel so stupid. I am in love with a man and he recently wrote to me to tell me that he is going through an emotionally difficult time. I responded that "I understand and that my thoughts are with him". After sending it I realised that the phrase "my thoughts are with you" is normally used when someone close to someone died. No one actually died, this person is just going through a rough patch, but is totally OK. Will I look like an idiot for saying that? Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, Confuzzled012  +, writes (18 September 2009):
 No ma'am not weird at all. Don't worry so much! You obviously like him otherwise you wouldn't be disecting it. If it was stupid, you would've realized before sending it. But you didn't. Which means it's only stupid in your paranoid afterthoughts, meaning, it's not stupid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2009): it was a term of compassion, which is not limited to times of bereavement. It was a kind and thoughtful thing to say.
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (18 September 2009):
 No. You're trying to show the person that you care, and extending those words to him is designed to console.
Rough patches and deaths are the same. People suffer, and the pain is no different emotionally. The phrase was appropriate.
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