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writes: I had been dating my boyfriend for 4 months before i cheated on him. Our whole relationship was long distance, since he was a year older than me and in college. In March of my senior year of high school i went on spring break with a BIG group of friends, to Mexico. On St. Patrick's day i drank wayyy to much. I ended up hooking up with a guy from my group, no we did not sleep together. Most of it i don't even remember. He knew about it right when i got home, and decided to still stay with me. But about a month later he found out i "hooked up" with another guy from my group. This one was honestly just kissing and dancing, but it slipped my mind because of him dealing with the first guy and i didn't think it was THAT big of a deal. But still i know, cheating is cheating. It's been 8 months since and all my guilt is starting to come back to me even though he took me back and still loves me more than ever. I hate the feeling of knowing how much i hurt him and i think about it almost every day. It changed how i am as a girlfriend, because before this i didn't know how to be a good girlfriend. I love my boyfriend more than anything and i honestly know he is the guy i want to spend my life with. Although from time to time it comes back to us and we both get really sad because i feel his pain. I wish i could make it all go away. I'm wondering if the guilt will ever go away for me? And if him and i will ever be able to forget about it and move on with our lives?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010): The best thing you can do is make sure you never cheat on him again. Otherwise he will never believe you.
Maybe you need to find some ways of being together more often, talking more often, emailing, messaging etc., so that you feel more together. That might help you by reducing the temptation.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (8 December 2010):
 If you do show him how good of a girlfriend you can be, in time you two will move on. In finding redemption in both your eyes, he will think nothing of it because the girl who cheated on him and the wonderful girlfriend he has now are two very different people, this one being wiser. Keep being the best girlfriend you can be and it will all just fade away.
I hope that helps.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (8 December 2010):
 don't beat yourself up about this. you are young and you will probably have loads more boyfriends before you find the one you will settle down with. you seem to have learned a good lesson here that its wrong to cheat on someone coz it hurts them and makes you feel bad too. dont be surprised however if your boyfriend at some point in the future decides that he wants to even up the score.
i hope you can both put this behind you as you do seem to care very much about each other.
xx
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