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writes:I'm a 17 year-old girl and I've had a crush on a guy for almost three years. We met at a summer camp in 2010, on the way there in the bus. We talked a lot, joked and he seemed really sweet. I was instantly attracted to him.Although he had a girlfriend back at home, during the camp he dated 2 girls, the second one actually led to a long-distance 1-year relationship. So he seems like a player, but he did have a longer relationship?After the camp we met several times, once with several friends at a movie, another time just the two of us at a restaurant. He invited me out both times.We didn't meet physically for about a year, just talked a lot on IM, after which he met my sister and they dated for around 2 weeks. I don't blame my sister, I told her I didn't have any feelings for him but I was obviously in denial.Last summer we went on a camp together again. This time we sat together in the bus, watched movies, laughed, listened to music. On the first night we slept in the same room. Just the 2 of us. Nothing happened that night.On the following days we still talked a lot, we cuddled, joked around, hugged. Then he started hitting on this one girl who rejected him, but in the end he started dating this other girl.Since then we've met around town at different events and have still been talking on IM... He mostly dates girls who are at least 2 years younger than him and reallly skinny. I'm neither. I'm his age, pretty average looking.my question is, do you ever think I'll have a chance with this guy? Or am I destined to stay in the friendzone?
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reader, ihavetoomanythoughts  +, writes (18 February 2013):
 Do you really want to have a chance with a boy who can't seem to sit still? Cause that's what he is. A kid with a short attention span, always needing new toys to entertain him. The thing is, even if you do get a chance with him, what's to say you'll be 'kept'? He seems to have discarded every other girl he's come across, so don't expect that you can change him because 99.9% chance you'll be disappointed. You can't change someone who doesn't want to change themselves and he seems quite content to do what he does. Also, I don't think he has a 'friendzone' if he hits on every girl he comes across. You can take that to mean a good thing because it means you have a chance with him, or you can take that to mean a bad thing because while you have a chance with him, so does every other girl out there.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (17 February 2013):
 Yes he has a longer relationship and he is still a player. I don't know what makes him a prize to be had when he outwardly hits on every girl he sees, not to mention cheating on his long distance girlfriend. Even if you have a chance to be with him, how long do you think it will last?
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