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writes:I met someone at work. He'll be leaving to work somewhere else in about 4 months time. He seems into me but I am very hesitant to develop this any further. He'll be leaving in months so why even start? He's been touchy and I am afraid he's after the physicals rather than being in a relationship. And besides I am afraid he's just into me because it's exotic to date an Australian. He's told me in the past that visiting the down under is something exotic because it's quite different from his place. Is it reasonable for me to have such judgements and thoughts? Am I wrong? Criticise and comment please. Thanks a lot!
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (18 February 2013):
There's nothing wrong with having a thing for someone because they're exotic. It's called attraction; for some people its where the other person is from, for others its hair color or the clothes they wear.
I can tell you that I find myself attracted to brown skinned women, but that doesn't mean that's the only reason I'm with them.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 February 2013):
 Exactly : if he's leaving in 4 months, why even bother ?
If it is a relationship you are looking for. If you aren't looking for anything serious, or at least you would not be heartbroken if it does not pan out as serious, and you'd be fine also with a nice exotic parenthesis, then go for it.
But starting dating someone who's leaving to another country in 4 months,.. with the assumption he'll fall for you and will want to do a serious LDR thing, or take you with him, or change his plans for you... improbable, very improbable. If it's a long term relationship that you are looking for, I guess I'd give this a miss.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2013): I totally see where you're coming from. Just try not to over analyze the situation too much. If you think that seeing him will leave you "damaged" when he leaves then don't unless you think you can handle it.
Also, there's exotic and there's interesting. Chances are he likes you but can't do "serious" right now. Don't let him be the decisive factor, take control. Everything comes down to what YOU want from this. Have fun or dodge a bullet?
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