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writes:I have been divorced, have 2 kids, broken heart from a one year relationship with married man, suffering from sleep disorder and depression lately,and I've got no one to talk to about and no crying shoulder.Am I ever going to be happy again and find the love of my life and fall in love again???
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much guys for ur answers
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2009): i right now i think you need to focus on healing and your kids. in time there will be your next turn for love. plse use this time wisely. you have just come out of a messy triangle. it is not fair on you or this mans wife. the only person who scored was this married man! re prioritise your life. make sense of what has happened. and why it happened. eg. why did you embark on the affair. give your life value again. start loving yourself again and also start liking what you see. if you still work for this man, then resolve never to cross the lines again. just have a professional relationship. do not show him you are weak. you have survived the worse, now is the ME time. time to take stock of the kids lives and enjoy them. cry, but know that there is light at the end of the tunnel. value your kids.
as for finding love - in time after you have healed and when you can share your life again, it will happen. once you learn to love yourself again, you will find that special one that will mean the world to you and your kids. and resolve NEVER to have an affair with a married man again. you have tasted forbidden fruit and it has left a sour taste in your mouth. you owe this to your kids and yourself at least. good luck to the start of a better fulfilled life.
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reader, TwiggyCA  +, writes (24 June 2009):
 I cannot speak for certain, but maybe with 99% certainty, and the answer is yes! You will be happy again, but only if you allow yourself to be. I am prone to depression as well, just coming out of a sad, terrible breakup... but I believe, I DO believe that I will be happy again. As far as relying on another person for happiness... you cannot do that! But I know that it makes it easier, doesn't it? You'll find another lover that will make you happy. Maybe not tomorrow or the next day or even next year, but at some point you will. You just have to put yourself out there and be open. And no one wants a depressed mate. The happier and healthier you are, the more attractive you are! (and fyi, all of the advice that I just gave to you... was really meant for myself too. I feel your pain and I do strongly believe that we'll both be ok). :-)
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (24 June 2009):
 You will in good time. Just don't give up. I am here if you want to talk.
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