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writes:So to start im 25 years old my question is kinda going to be all over the place so just bare with me please. So 3 years back I was in a relationship with a guy who did me wrong and gave me a std that I had no symptoms of and it was sitting in my body without knowing eventually I went to a dr because I did find out he was cheating and wanted to get checked out. Long story short he have me a std that lead to me getting pelvic inflammatory desease they gave me a antibiotic and a few shots and apparently if it sits in the body for long enough it can cause problems with not being able to get pregnant or having trouble carrying your baby full term. I also have high risk hpv so I’m always getting regular check ups at the gyno to make sure everything is good which every time I get a Pap smear they come back abnormal but my gyno says I’m fine and hpv is more common then I know. So just this year I met my high school sweetheart and everything is going so good and I told him everything that’s going on with me and he still wants to be with me. Of course I use protection with him and I’m begging him to get the hpv shot. We are literally best friends and he told me last night that I’m the future that he wants a family with me and I broke down in tears and things started racing through my mind like how could I even have unprotected sex with him? I don’t want to give him hpv! And what if I can’t even carry a child? All I want is a family with him and those two things are always weighing on my mind. What if my insides are to messed up and I miscarrage and can’t give him children? I just need honest and real responses. I’m constantly thinking about this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2018): For the person who said I’m making it a bigger proublem then it is and everything else I’m not. That’s how I feel and I’m not coming on here looking for 100% answers I literally was just looking for people that could relate or understand how stressful it is on a women to worry about something like this wether you think it’s big or small it’s a huge deal in my life and I didn’t said what std it was because I wasn’t asking about that I was asking about the desease it gave me -pelvic inflammatory desease which I was treated for yes just wanted to see if anyone else had it and could tell me how things went with them. I AM going to see my dr in two weeks to do test and get answers but I wanted to ease my mind a little before going. To everyone else that commented thank you so so much for your kind understanding words it really helped me worry less I have been stress and i appreated what everyone said and it helped me a lot with not feeling alone and that their is hope for babies in the future. Xoxoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2018): He already has hpv, like 99% chance. Because 99% of all sexually active humans has it, it's not an std. Only a couple of strands of hpv pose any danger/discomfort for humans, the rest are completely innocent. So unless you have the hpv that gives you cancer, or the one that gives you genital warts (which you get treated for and then after some years you no longer carry it in your body anyways) then I dont see why you are concerned about hpv.Next, what STD did you get? Chlamydia? Also treatable, and by now you should have been treated and finished with treatment long time ago and will not pass it on to him. But you need to tell us what STD you got, otherwise there's no point in us giving advice as we have no idea what STD you're talking about. They are not all the same, you know!As for whether or not you can get pregnant, your DOCTOR needs to talk to you about this and you need to just run the tests. Then you will know. You seem to worry so much about things you can easily find the answer to. Talk to your doctor. Get treatment if you haven't been properly treated yet. Then of course you can go on to have unproteted sex and make babies later on. No problem. You're making this into a much bigger problem than it is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2018): You will be ok Hpv is very common. Most people have had it. The body can clear the virus. So you may not transmit it to him. He may already have had it and doesn’t know. And pelvic inflammatory disease can cause fertility problems but there’s no reason to think it did in your case It is also sadly a common problem. Even if it has reduced your fertility you would still likely conceive. With ivf. But more likely naturally. Everything will work outYou can both go for full sexual health screens and you should repeat these regularly just in case. It’s great that you’ve talked to him about your fears and are being responsible. These things are a part of life and probably many of your friends have had the same issues but are too embarrassed to discuss it. Don’t stress. You’ll be fine
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (7 February 2018):
 Sorry, OP, but you're in the wrong place. We can't help you and it would be irresponsible to try. You need to speak solely with your doctor about this and find a support group for people in your situation or similar.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (7 February 2018):
 Sweetheart, your concerns are completely understandable but don't you think it's better if you ask your doctor these questions? I'm sure it's not as bad as you think because you can't possibly be the first person in the world in this situation. As your doctor says, it's most likely more common than you think but only a he/she can help you.
We can only reassure you but you need to go to a doctor with your boyfriend and talk things out. Stop wasting your time worrying and just go. Today. Believe me, it will be fine. Stop ruminating about your health and be positive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2018): There are so many options and fertility treatements nowadays, I think those are extreme EXTREME cases that would lead to infertility. Many people do have PID and it doesn't necessarily impact fertility at all. I think they are giving you worst case scenario. Many people have ongoing infections for long time that COULD do this or that (ongoing anywhere in the body) but many people survive with them with no drastic outcomes. Many people are told they will never be able to conceive and then DO conceive. So I think you are worrying too much, but definitely talk to your doctor if you are worried. HPV is VERY common, and in all likelihood your Bf has already been exposed to some strains. If you do marry, then you know you will be each other's only partner. Men often show NO symptoms whatsoever of HPV, so i don't think you need to worry about the outcome of infecting him as it is far less dangerous in males. I mean, as long as he is informed of his risks, which he IS, it isn't the end of the world. It isn't like HIV, for example. It is fairly benign and you can monitor it as well medically. Just relax and enjoy dating this man.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 February 2018):
 Talk to your Gyno, she knows YOUR specific case and the STD you got.
We can't give you a denial or confirmation whether you can have kids or not.
Condoms do NOT protect from spreading HpV.
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