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30-35,
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writes:Right i have a question and it is really confusing me.Me and my ex been together a year and a half the first 6 months was great, After this it we broke up got back together broke up got back together, i do suffer from personality disorder so occasionally i got in these weird moods for no reason and i do change my mind like the wind and i am not as affectionate as my partener was.. But my way of affection was buying him his favourite book wrapped in his favourite colour.. He uses the fact of me in these moods are excuses and it really upsets me i admit i am jelouse person but most of the time im not... He says hes never loved anybody as much as he has ever loved me he never wanted anything to work more then us, but we was making each other unhappy anyway we broke up and he started texting this girl he said there was nothing going on.. But i got it out of him he slept with her and still texting her because he said to me that he knows what he will get with me but with this other girl that he dont know what he is going to get with her wether he could have a happier life....he said he is so confused because whatever decision he makes he will be making the wrong one, He said hes heard everything all before like when i say i will try and be more affectionate in the way he wants and that i will try to snap myself out these moods and ill stop pushing him away., he said he hates the thought of me with someone else and he cant stop me meeting them or doing anything he thinks our relationship is doomed.. He wants to talk on sunday and that will be d day , if we did get back together could i ever forget that he slept with someone else because i know he will see her again because she is a friend of a friend.
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reader, Darrell Goodliffe +, writes (8 February 2013):
 I think this guy wants to have his cake and eat it to be honest. He hates the thought of you being with somebody else yet expects you to forgive the fact that he has been with somebody else. I have to be honest. I think your putting alot of effort in here, buying his favourite book wrapped in his favourite colour is sweet, and frankly I think you deserve alot better than you believe you do.Maybe your not perfect (newsflash, nobody is), maybe you have issues and maybe you do push this guy away BUT actions like that are kind, considerate and caring and deserve better from him and you deserve better from yourself than to wallow in self-loathing. You have to believe you deserve better than this shoddy treatment because you obviously do.I dont know whether you will be able to forget this and I dont think necessarily that you should. I dont see any evidence that you should trust this guy. I dont see any reason for you to stay in this relationship any other than your own low self esteem. Sorry but I am really not convinced this is one worth saving from your point of view or his.
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