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writes:When I started going out with him, I was going under some medication, due to an infectionI showed him my medical test result and how am taking care of myself, due to the infection, when I pee I had a bad odour, but I had been to see a Doctor.My doctor that said that it just for a matter of 5days, if I kept on with my medication, Thankfully it stopped after a week and I took the test over to be sure.....After 6 months later I found out that the man who claimed to love me so much and who did everything for me, had once discussed with someone else. how dirty and smelling I am. He discussed it with one of his female friend.When she told me days yesterday in an argument about my lovely bf I told her it was a long time ago.I was shocked when I came to know this. That he would tell, even though I know it’s true. I feel so disappointed in him and insecure about him now. Anyways he told her when his we just start going out with me, and he was not in love with me.Why would be say anything like that? What should I do about him Please help quickly I will be seeing him in some hours’ time and am ready to discuss this with him. Thanks in advance
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2013): He really don't love you...because if he really care ...he don't tell his friend about your embarrasing conditionDon't waste your time that kind of a manDon't regret that you tell him about condition...in that way...you measure unintentionally how genuine his love to youYou are doing right. i assure you, who ever accept you with your condition now...he's the right man for you. if you also love him , you'll be happy for the rest of your life.i can relate with your problem because i also experience it.i tell that i'm i'll to the man who also tell me that he love me. he want's to marry me...but i don't receive any help from him...i don't feel sincerety, thoughtfullness, i mean thoughtfulness. i can support my medication but i want the man who trully love me can do that to me...if i met a man who trully did what i want...that i can feel his really sincere. well i can tell, his life with me, will trully heaven...i'm a happy person before but because of my very embarassing ailment's i'm changed...hope there's still a man out there, over there, who can back my big smile and loud laugh....if he can accept me that i'm ail and ugly...if i can recover the more he can accept me...Anyway hope your o.k. with your medication...and if it happens that man want to talk you again..avoid him...and if he insist tell him to avoid you because your dirty and very smelly....good luck dear
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reader, oldbag +, writes (9 February 2013):
 Hi
There's 'sharing' and there's 'too much information'.
You gave way too much information,he did not need to know your 5 day medical problem, I am sure he wasn't going to join you in the bathroom at that early stage.
He probably freaked out about this 'womens thing' and decided to ask another female her advice, he had only just started dating you remember.
He stayed around so I don't know why you feel so upset or why you feel the need to say anything at all to be honest.
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reader, human_male  +, writes (8 February 2013):
 I think if I was just starting to see someone and she suddenly said "By the way I think you should know when I pee I have a bad odour, and this is due to an infection, but it's all good because I'm getting it fixed." I would freak. I don't need to hear that. If you smell bad all the time due to the infection then perhaps you shouldn't be dating until you heal. But if it's only something you would notice when you go to the toilet then why in the world would you tell anyone?I think he had a genuine cause to want to talk to someone about it so he confided in someone. He may have been concerned for your health. It turns out he made a bad choice because she threw it back at you during an argument. If that's the case then I would forgive him. After all he has stayed with you when I think a lot of men would have been wierded out and left.Unless you think he was making fun of you when he told her, in which case that's a very insensitive thing to do. The only way to find out is to talk to him and hear what he has to say.By the way you might want to be more careful about your spelling, grammar and punctuation. Your post is very difficult to read. I'm not criticising you, but a lot of people might not bother reading it if the English is so bad it's practically illegible.Modnote: original question has since been re-edited by another Moderator.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (8 February 2013):
It was probably a turn off too soon in the relationship for him. You have to save that stuff for later. It was a little insensitive of him but as you say it was the truth.
Your issue should be him sharing details of your relationship with other people.
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