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writes:HeyyyI broke up with my bf of 10 months, one month ago because he told me he didnt want to be in a relationship anymore (wanted to spend more time with mates)although he did say he still loved me.The last month has been the hardest of my life. Im fine when im around friends - but when im alone i cant help but feel upset,and get so angry at myself for loosing him because i truly love him.I dont wanna sound like a sob story, everyone goes through break-ups...i just done know how i am suppose to get over him!! I speak to him basically everyday, and we meet up alot as he wants to remain 'best mates'. So i dont know if this is prolonging the heart ache? And not allowing me to get over him?Also, i keep on thinking that we are still gonna get back together. All are friends keep on saying that we will get back together, and i have spoken to him about it...but he is still like ' i dont want a relationship at the moment'Will he want a relationship? mite it just be a phrase hes going through...cause of the summer??or should i cut contact with him...move on?Any advice would be greatly accepted! Im so confused! thanks xxxxxxxx
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reader, noor  +, writes (30 July 2007):
give him some time, prolly 2or 3 months..and if he still does that then i would say move on cuz he doesnt have feelings left for u...and u ll be waiting for him which not fair with u..so just give him some time for sure but not very long though...
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reader, DJ8433  +, writes (30 July 2007):
 You really need to give him his space because he has asked you to. You can only base your decisions on reality and fact. If you expressed your needs and told him how you feel, then he gave you an answer. It may not be what you wanted to here, but you know what you need to do. As far as the questions you are asking, you know the answer better than anyone else. If you don't think the relationship will go anywhere, then move on.
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reader, Ladyme  +, writes (29 July 2007):
 Hey
I know how hard break ups can be, believe me. My advice to you is stay with mates with him. It might be that he does just want to spend more time with his mates, but its not fair if hes leading you on for to long. In the meantime go out with your girl mates and show him that you can have a good time aswell, not only will it take your mind of it for a bit, but you may even find someone that you really like. But if you really feel that seeing him all the time is making it worse for you, tell him that you would like to spend some time apart and maybe it would also open his eyes to see what his life is like without you.
Hope this helps xxxx
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