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writes:i get to attached to boys and i dont want to because it hurts a lot if something happens. help Reply to this Question
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reader, teengutair1 +, writes (29 July 2007):
teengutair1 is verified as being by the original poster of the question yes i am very dependent and shy so if a hot guy comes an talks to me i start to get on the computer only to talk to em. do u hav some tips to help me wth this?
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (29 July 2007):
 It sounds to me like you have some self-esteem problems and find it hard to 'exist' away from other people. Once someone, anyone, you like in the slightest comes into your life and gives you a bit of attention, you worship them and think you can't be without them.
Sadly, most of us have this side to us and when we feel most vulnerable, it comes out and we can be hurt when the feelings are not reciprocated by the other person. All we can do is work on ourselves and become that person that people do want and, if some fool decides they don't want us in their lives, we're strong enough not to care!
Seeing someone to get some help and working out where all this needyness and quick-attachment comes from is a good idea. Not letting people in, the opposite to what you do, is harmful too, as you end up with no serious emotional attachments to anyone. You need to be somewhere in the middle, strong alone but also strong and independent when you're with someone.
You can't control the way relationships turn out, because the other person can end it or cause problems whenever the like. You can only decide that you want to learn to handle the aftermath of these situations differently and this is what you need to do.
Good luck
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