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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years. The thing is that i sent an email to my ex saying that im sorry for what happened in the past and i hope he doesnt see me as a bad person ever(our relationship lasted almost 4 years and i broke his heart cheating on him twice). The email that i sent to my ex was sort of a peace note, to leave past memories behind that i have wronged someone. I erased the email so my boyfriend doesnt see it ( he has my account). It turned out that my ex replied saying good things like past is past and everything is ok. But when he replied my boyfriend read the letter and knew i erased the one i sent. He was very pissed, told me that i am a liar and that he doesnt trust me, and that he has to think if hes going to get back with me. Its been a couple of days and he doesnt want to talk to me. And if i write him or something he just replies that i was a liar and stuff. I know that the part of erasing the email was wrong and contacting my ex but am i such a bad person because of that that a relationship of two years is almost gone because of this. Will he take me back? Would you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): I personally see his side for being mad. I'm not trying to be mean but..
The fact that you took time, out of your life, to make peace obviously made him jealous.
He probably felt very insecure when he read it because not only were you trying to "befriend" your ex again but also behind you hid it from him.
You didn't exactly lie but you weren't very truthful.
I truly think you should maybe give him sometime and eventually talk to him.
If things don't work out, then don't feel bad because you should never feel ashamed of losing a guy over such a silly reason.
I know how you feel though especially if the relationship was 2 years,
trust me give him timeee, he will will come back !
Promise him that you won't keep anything from him. Just tell him that you are sorry and only wanted to be friends and was wrong that you hide it from him.
Good Luck Girl !
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (16 July 2009):
 I'd take you back. Heck, I never would have dumped you in the first place. It takes a strong person to admit they were wrong and apologize. You weren't trying to get back with him, you were making peace with the past so you could move forward. Leave your boyfriend alone to stew in his immature juices for a while, and then have a long talk together later on. If he really dumps you over this he is too stupid to date you.
Good luck.
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reader, Jason32477 +, writes (16 July 2009):
 I would totally take you back and your bf is way over reacting.You didn`t lie.You just hid something you felt he would over react to and look and behold what happened. Complete over reaction.Anyone close to him that your close to?Maybe talk to them and explain the situation and have them talk to your bf on your behalf.
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