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writes:I am in a relationship with this guy.He doesn't want to have sex because he don't want it to turn phhsical and he dont want to loose respect for me.I am totally fine wit that cause im a virgin but we do have oral sex sometimes. Will he loose respect for me at the same pase as he would if we were having sex?
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reader, Felina  +, writes (23 November 2008):
 Hi!!I understand you having a relationship without sex.You are really young and should wait if you dont feel ready to get phisical.However oral sex is quite phisical.I dont see where you got the idea of having sex connected to loosing respect.Sex is a beautiful,explosive and intense union of two persons.It should never make him loose respect for you,but make him respect you even more.Sex creates a very special and strong bond between two persons,and not the oposite.But I think,if you are having these feelings,maybe you should wait a litle more to turn phisical,including oral sex.Hope I helped.Just dont do anything youre not feeling confortable with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): You got it all wrong, girl. he actually told you he will lose respect for you if you had sex???? What's wrong with him? I would understand if he told you he is not sure of his feelings for you , that's why he is not sure that he wants to be your first man, or he wants to wait because you guys are so young (that would be very unussual to hear from 17-year old boy though). But saying that he would loose respect for you? Sounds like he has no respect for himself. Sex is the highest form of how people express their love for each other, at least that's how it was meant to be, until people turned it to be recreation. It's a nurturing and most intimate act, this is as close two people can be with each other physically. Sex is the highest level of gratification your body can ever have. There is no room for disrespect here. It's all about mutual pespect. I would drop him in a second, tell you the truth. He sounds very immature and not worthy of having sex with any woman (or girl in this case) yet. He has a lot of growing up to do.
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