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writes:Basically I have fallen completely head over heels in love with this one girl I've known for a number of months, we have been through a lot already. She has hinted quite a few times and it takes me like two hours before something happens or someone says something which makes me realise it was a hint. We met for lunch this past Thursday where the plan was to tell her how I feel but when it came to it I couldn't. It completely upset me and ended up being pretty angry with myself after, I told her I had to tell her something and you could tell she was waiting. I am totally in love with her, everywhere I go, everything I do - she is always on my mind. I want to tell her but I can't find the words. Can someone help, what do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008): sorry but u r not in love - u have a big crush and r infatuated with her (which is a good thing). don't say I love u because that could scare some women. hold her hand with both of your hands, ask her to close her eyes, wisper into her ear 'i really like u and when i'm with u, i've never been happier'. if she has a huge smile that's your answer. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008): if she's been giving u hints I'd tell u to go for it. I. Mean way have u got to lose? If she rejects u then that's her loss. If u really think u luv her then Id wait a couple more weeks just to make sure. Give her hints and who knows maybe shell make the first move!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): I understand how you feel.There are some people who find it very difficult to express their feelings with words.I agree with FifthQuadrant here.I am not sure if you guys are already dating or not.If you have been dating for some time or have reached the level of friendship where you hug each other,try this following tip.
An element of surprise is always nice for the woman.Its sometimes difficult looking at the eyes of the person while telling those magical words.For starters hug her tight.While still hugging her,bend your face near her ears.Kiss the ear very lightly and whisper,"I love you".So you are not looking into her eyes and you won't feel self conscious.All the Best.I am crossing my fingers for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): Hmmm. If you're not an item then this will definitely scare her off. Are you trying to break the ice by telling her you love her? I think the basic rule is that if you think you're in love and you're not actually dating then this is a crush. Love comes later on when she looks like a car crash on the sofa after a hard day in the office whilst you've been cleaning the ensuite toilet in your elasticated trousers and marigolds. Actions speak louder than words. Compose something romantic out of fridge magnets or alphabetti spaghetti - she'll love that (unless she's on Atkin's!). Fifthquadrant.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): SAY "I FREAKING LOVE YOU, BABY!!!!" LOL
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for that:)
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (23 November 2008):
You just have to grab her hand and tell her.
Take a big breath and blurt it out.
Don't build it up and invite her for a specific lunch so you can go down on one knee.
Just hang out, enjoy each other's company and blurt it out.
It's just as romantic to be surprised.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): Pretty obvious lol...just tell her you like her, and if you want to be with her tell her...the only thing that really stops people getting into relationship is that awkwardness right before you ask someone out...its simple...lol...just do it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): Don't go telling her you love her yet. Just ask her out properly and let the love bit come out later if things go well. You might scare her off if you are too forward.
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