A
female
age
30-35,
*hettoPrincess
writes:im seeing this lad and i told him im not a virgin, and we both want to have sex i dont want him to kno that im a virgin will he find out after having sex with me?? i cant tell him im a virgin either but i use tampons and ive been fingerd a few times i need helpp.!! x
View related questions:
tampon Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, GhettoPrincess +, writes (11 October 2009):
GhettoPrincess is verified as being by the original poster of the questionive told him...and hes relii happy that im guna give my v to him...he sed he understands about me lyin..but now we r relii happy..butt we are jst guna wait for a bit wen we are both ready .. thnks everyone =)
A
female
reader, Sexi star  +, writes (10 October 2009):
Ok well see if he laughs just laugh with him and say hey ur lucky..cause yul b my first and if he gets mad just say i understand bt i was afriad of wat u were guna say bt now that i c that were closer and that were ready for sex i was ready 4the truth
...............................
A
female
reader, NymphoSexLover  +, writes (8 October 2009):
Judging by your age you're not ready for sex to begin with.
If he laughs at you for being a virgin, leave the bastard behind. He's not worth your time if he laughs. Same goes for if he gets mad.
Sadly enough I was in your same position (no pun intended) sort of. The first time I had sex, I told the guy I wanted to and there would be rumors going around that I was a slut the previous week so he just assumed I was a slut. I failed to mention I was a virgin when we got together. Like a lot of guys, he was elated that I loved/trusted him enough to give him my virginity. Don't worry. If he gets mad or laughs, he's not the guy for you. Save yourself for someone that loves you for you and not what he thinks you are.
If you do decide to tell him the truth, which you should do, make sure to talk to him about what you're comfortable with, how to go about the first time, and CONDOMS!!! You DO NOT want to get pregnant the first time you have sex. Being on the pill is not an excuse for not using condoms because the pill is NOT 100% effective. Make sure you are comfortable talking abou all this before even THINKING about having sex. If you can't bring this up to him, you're not ready.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2009): if he cares about you he won't laugh or get angry or anything, he'll probably be happy and feel special that you are giving your virginity to him. Just tell him that you were nervous and embarrassed and that's why you lied but you care about him and you want him to know the truth. LOTS of people do this and end up in the same spot as you and they tell the truth and nothing bad happens, the guy either sticks around if he's a good guy or bails if he's a jerk and you don't need the jerks. If he does laugh or get mad GET RID OF HIM, he's an ass at that point and not worth wasting anymore of your time with. You should not be embarrassed to tell him the truth and if you can't talk about sex with him then you're not mature enough to be having it yet.
...............................
A
female
reader, GhettoPrincess +, writes (7 October 2009):
GhettoPrincess is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni dont kno i want to tell him but im scared just in case he laughs at me or something i really want to tell him but i feel like hes just going to get angry aswell so i dont know what to do ..
...............................
A
female
reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (7 October 2009):
 So you're already lying to this guy? Does he know how old you are? because if you're lying about that too, you're trying to make him a criminal. That shows poor judgement and selfishness.
To answer your question, yes, it's quite likely he'll realize you were lying to him about being a virgin. The way you'll react to the physical sensations will tell him that.
Have you done all the research on contraception? That's what you should be worried about. Good luck!
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2009): it all depends. if you still have your hymen then yes he will. but judging by the fact you use tampons and have been fingered you may not have one anymore. you may have been born without one or lost it some other way.
...............................
A
male
reader, Confuzzled012 +, writes (7 October 2009):
 If you are not the same person who wrote this question earlier, then you should take a look at this link because you are likely to get the same answers:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-think-im-ready-for-sex-will-he.html
If you are the same person then... you got 9 people before, so I think that's enough.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2009): yes, he will be able to tell that you are a virgin!
the best thing is just to tell him the truth.
If you don't, he will feel very hurt and possibly angry that you lied to him about not being a virgin.
You'll probably bleed down there when penetration happens- even though you've used tampons and you've been fingered.
Not only can he tell by the bleeding, but he'll also know that you're not experienced by things you may do during sex.
Experienced guys can almost always tell if a girl has been with someone else before.
like I said, best bet is to tell him the truth.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2009): i hope somebody will correct me if i'm wrong, but from what you said, it's fair to assume your hymen has been broken and so nobody can tell whether you're a virgin. i assume you know the meaning of the word 'hymen', if not, use wikipedia.
i don't like it that you're being dishonest with him, but that's none of my business. if you lie to him, the relationship won't last. i think for both your sakes, you should think about telling him the whole truth. i don't care about sexual history as a rule, but i do care about transparency and openness in a relationship. if he's one to keep, he'll be open with you.
...............................
A
female
reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (7 October 2009):
 You are very young to be having sex. Regardless though you should tell him that you are a virgin. If you can't do that then you are not ready to have sex.
Good Luck!
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2009): Honestly, don't try to break your hymen or anything. That can be dangerous in some cases.
The way I think about it, if this guy really loves/likes you, he won't care. If he does, out the door he goes!
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2009): why cant you tell him you are a virgin?
...............................
|
