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writes: Im 14, 15 in a month and i am very insecure about the size of my penis. Im not as endowed as some of the other guys at school. and it kinda brings me down. It kinda makes me feel bad about myself when i cant fill my pants up properly. Yeah, im pathetic right...thats what i thought. And i dont know if i will continue to grow..i hope i do..i pray i do..i feel no a girls gonna look at me and laugh and think im a big joke. I hope the developement of my penis catches up with my body. I dont know if im normal or whatever...it just makes me feel less of a guy. im 5.5 inch when im hard and way less than that flacid. So that's pretty small right? it's frustrating...and i dont know if ill change. Does anyone have any thoughts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2009): You might find this information reassuring:
http://sexuality.about.com/od/anatomyresponse/a/average_penis.htm
Keep in mind that erection is the great equalizer. For some guys, it just dangles down when it's soft, so it doesn't get much longer when it's hard. For others (and this sounds more like you), it kind of shrinks away when it's not looking to perform, and therefore is noticeably larger when erect.
You may grow some more. And if you don't, you are already dead on in the middle of average. Focus on learning how to use what you've got, and you'll have no problems at all.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (7 October 2009):
 Honestly, it's unlikely to get any bigger. You are going feel self conscious about it and it will take time to have confidence in yourself. I'm pretty much the same as you. I was very self conscious about it in my teens and early 20s. Despite going to an all boys boarding school, playing rugby etc. I'm not aware of any guy ever having a dig at me about it but it was always there in the back of my mind. One of the most vivid / painful memories I have is of being 18 years old, 10,000 miles from home and going in to see a doctor because I'd convinced myself that I had syphilis (I didn't). Not only did I have to get it out in front of the doctor but then he called his nurse in as well - I was mortified and my dick basically almost disappeared completely ...
It wasn't until my 30s until I really felt comfortable with it and realised that really nice looking women genuinely enjoyed having sex with me and that they weren't just being polite and then laughing at me behind my back.
A couple of practical points:
- aim for smaller girls, not a hard and fast rule but I have undertaken a statistically significant sampling and generally smaller girls suit better for the smaller penis.
- be pre-emptive with your tongue. Read everything you can about how to use your tongue and put that knowledge into practice. If she has had a couple of orgasms before your penis even comes into play then she is not going to be worried at all about what size your penis is. In fact this alone will put you so far ahead of 98% of teenage boys that she will think you are a sexual genius.
My room mate in my last year at school had (I assume he still has it) a penis so long that when he was running it would sometime escape from the bottom of his running shorts. All very impressive but he found it very embarrassing and in fact more practical problems from a penis being too big than from being on the smaller side of average - for one thing there are quite a few places where it won't fit...
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2009): You need to stop worrying about this, and know that your simply NORMAL... you've got several years of growth ahead of you and your on track... once a woman like syou enough to get naked with you, she's NOT GOING TO CARE if your 5.5,6.75,6.0,6.25 inches long... if you grown to much more than that your likely not going to get as many BJ's or invitations for backdoor adventures...
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reader, NightLad  +, writes (7 October 2009):
 Hi there,
Ultimately the most important person to whom penis sizes mattes is the person who owns it. There will be times in your life that you hear juvenile jokes bantered about on TV/movies or real life, and you may even be unfortunate enough to meet some shallow people that feel size is everything. But let me assure you, those people end up victims of their own vanity in the end. The people who judge others based on superficial qualities eventually find themselves chasing an ever-elusive ideal of personal perfection that can never be obtained. Thousands of dollars a year on cosmetics, plastic surgery, the latest in trendy clothing... and they still age and fade.
Always remember that anybody who’d reject you based on the proportion of a body part isn’t worthy of you in the first place.
As for the physical size of your penis; the penis is an external organ that we associate with our manhood from the first day we know we have one. However, the size of it isn’t what makes a man, and more importantly, it isn’t what your spouse will one day consider the most important part of you. Perhaps you’ve not yet experienced it, but true love is something that transcends all things. When you truly love a person, you love them for who they are, and all else becomes a far distant second. Even if you think you know what your ‘ideal’ mate might look like, when you find that special someone you may be surprised that they are nothing like you imagined -- and it won’t even cross your mind.
Now, to the point: the penis does not stop growing until you are around 21. However, even if your penis does not increase an inch, know that you have enough to get the job done.
But I hear what you are saying; you may not even be concerned about what other people think, but rather feel an inward sense of disappointment about your size. Understand that this is a personal psychological issue that can ultimately only be remedied by acceptance and improving your sense of self worth. I’ve known a guy with less than you, fully erect, who has enjoyed long-term relationships and more than his share of sex. On the other hand, I’ve known guys that are perfectly average (like you!) who’ve allowed this sense of penile-dysmorphia destroy their confidence and torpedo potential relationships and sex opportunities. When it comes to sex, it really is 90% mental!
Beware of the many scams that the internet is full of. There is no magic pill or devise that can add inches, especially not overnight. The surgery that exists is costly, and carries a horrific assortment of risks; from permanent loss of sensation in the penis, to inability to get an erection, even to shortening the penis if it heals wrong.
However, then there is a technique some men swear will increase the size of their penis; it is called Jelqing. Basically, it is a system of stretches for the penis that help stretch and lengthen the supporting ligaments connecting the penis to the public bone. The penis is actually several inches longer than you see, but it is concealed within the body. One website that explains the general technique can be found here: http://penis-enlargement-manual.thundersplace.org/
You should also check out this site for good, factual information about all things penis-related: http://www.altpenis.com/
Don’t forget to check out the message boards.
I hope this helps.
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reader, CheerleaderXx +, writes (7 October 2009):
Okay first of let me tell you that size doesn't matter.
You hear everyone saying how much it does but in all reality it means nothing.
Your still young and you could very well begin to grow in that area.
Don't dwell on it kid, it will just make your situation worse.
Just give it time and see what happens.
Hope this was some help for you.
:-)
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (7 October 2009):
you may still grow man. and yea 5 and a half inches is average. some are smaller then that. don't let it get you down too much
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reader, vampiric_nikolas  +, writes (7 October 2009):
wait till your 18 to worry if your insecure. you have time to grow if not theres always other things i wouldn`t recommend to enhance growth. but like chics with flat chest some guys dig that and dudes with....well some chics dig that. just be comfortable with yourself and have patience lil bro most likely it will grow
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