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writes:My husband and i met when we were 15 and 16, we had our first child than and a year later we married. through most of our marriage i seeked out attention from other men, so in turn lead my husband to not trust me. About 1 year and a half ago i left him because i thought i was in love with this other guy. i realized a few monthes after i was wrong it wasnt love at all. so i stayed alone until i met a coworker and things were great with us except found out that that wasnt what he wanted at the time so needless to say i was heartbroken. my husband had also met someone new and grew close to her. well bout 6 monthes ago my husband and i have been trying to work things out and be a family. i realized i had made a huge mistake with all the things i had done to hurt him and our children so like i said we have been tryin to get back what feelings we once had for one another. each time i think things are great with us i find out hes still with that other women. I love him so much and would anything in the world for him. so once again he says hes done with the other women and wants us to get along and see where it goes from there, i have been completly devoted to him i have no urges to go elsewhere and never should have. so my question is what should i do? should i just move on or do i have any reasons to think he will go back to this other women? im lost!!!
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reader, Muscle and Sinew +, writes (16 July 2010):
 do you think that maybe its because you see him with another woman?
once your vowels have been tampered with in a marriage, its so hard to trust. its never goin to be the same.
and since you were involved with other men it seems like you were not satisfied with your marriage. needless to say that if he feels like he isnt going to trust you he will probably go back to this other woman.
you probably should let him go because trust in a marriage is one of the most important foundations, without that you have nothing. and if you feel there is a posibility that you will have a change in heart you need to let him know, it hurts when you get played
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reader, loraemoon  +, writes (15 July 2010):
 he probaly doesent know weather hes coming or going it seems you cant make up your mind about what you want and when the going gets tough you go back to him because with him you feel safe thats no life for you or your children its not fair on them more than anything! you say you have no urges to be with anyone else but what happens the next time you do? i think maybe you should be on your own for a while n listen to what your heart really wants
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (15 July 2010):
 If he's still seeing the other woman then sorry to say it, he's not working out things with you.
You say you have been completely devoted to him but in all honesty, you haven't. You left him for someone else and that has destroyed his trust. It sounds as if he needs more time to think about how he wants to proceed. He hasn't said he will come back to you yet, just that he wants to see how it goes, but if he's still seeing the other woman then it's not a serious effort...maybe he thinks you might leave him again and despite your best efforts to convince him, it is his call and not yours as to whether he rekindles the marriage.
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