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writes:Do most teenagers tell their parents about their love life? I've never felt the need to tell mine, partly because they never ask and partly because it's just not the kinda thing we all talk about.The main reason though is that they would act weird. I am 17, but even if I bring someone round who I'm not dating, my mum fusses like crazy and won't leave us alone. Also she'd put more restrictions on me staying out late, sleeping over friend's houses etc, which is what happened last time I went out with a guy.I've just started to date someone new, We're both really into each other which is great, and I don't want to screw it up. Will he be insulted if I keep our relationship a secret from my parents, or 'forget to mention it' to them? One of my previous boyfriends did, because I always invited him round when my parents were out. What can I do!? Reply to this Question
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reader, gram  +, writes (8 May 2008):
 hi there,if your boyfriend wants you tell your parents about him,then u dont,well he will be offended if he is either sensitive or quiet.my gf has told her mum about me but not willing to tell her dad and it does feel a little uncomfortable.but if yr bf has no problem with you not telling them, theres no reason to.until things start to get serious then i think you should,just to build relationships with each others family to get trust so you can both go where ever you like with out any parents on yr back wondering if you 2 can be trusted,take care
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reader, growing  +, writes (8 May 2008):
 Its not that big issue sweetie.you two are in no hurry to settle down so why family involvement is needed.just have fun the way you are having.do you want all those restrictions and tiffs with yr mom?I am sure your bf too wudn't be intrested in that.so just keep it out of parent's eyes .cos once parents are aware about yr relationchip then being parents of young gal they develop few fears and end up putting restrictions on your life style.so why to bother then unnecessarily.just enjoy and if your bf shows interest in telling your parents then let him know all the consequences.
he won't think about it again.lol!!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (8 May 2008):
I never told my parents about my love life either. Although when I met a guy I thought was "the one" I let them find out about him eventually because I thought he was going to be their son-in-law eventually.
Tell your boyfriend early on that you don't want to tell your parents about him because they will stop you from going out etc etc etc.
I think he is going to be more interested in seeing you past 10pm, than getting to know your mum and dad. You can always discuss it again if you get serious with him later on.
As long as you make it clear that it's because your mum is weird about boys, and it's not because you are ashamed of him / think your parents wouldn't approve of him, then it should be fine.
Good Luck!! xx
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