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writes:My boyfriend and I have had anal sex before with condoms but, no lube,(i was okay with it). Now he wants to try it without a condom,im not worried about the pain but, will it be safe?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2009): I've never had anal with a condom (comitted relationship) but from what I understand when your learning it does make it easier. We also used alot of lube most of the time (but there were occasions when we didn't use any, except her natural jucies). The matter is up to you... I'd suggest no condom if your sure he's clean, and some lube, just ot make sure there's no dry on dry skin contact.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2009): I've always heard, no anal sex without lube, let alone a condom. Whether or not you feel it, you could be doing permanent damage to yourself as the previous poster mentioned. You don't want to be incontinent by fifty, because of the micro-tears you created in your muscles - no sex is worth that.I would also point out to your bf that, without a condom he could be in for a nasty testicle infection. This has nothing to do with the monogamy of your relationship, but with your intestinal flora. A friend of my bf's got a testicle infection from anal sex with his wife and it was miserably painful and difficult to get rid of. Make sure he understands that aspect as well...
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2009): Your rectum isn't meant to handle sex. It doesn't expand and change in the same way your vagina does. Your vagina has natural lube that it produces, your rectum does NOT. You must use a lube meant for sex. Also, your vagina is meant to handle ejaculate. It can clean itself. Your rectum is not meant for that. You do NOT want his ejaculate in there. Even if you don't use condoms when you have vaginal or oral intercourse, you really must use a condom for anal. Not to mention it will be messy for him without one. So you MUST use lube and a condom. Without the lube you can actually rip things and seriously hurt your organs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2009): NO!
Why does he want to go without a condom? It isn't him who's being fucked.
Why are you not worried about the pain? Sex shouldn't be painful. But if you like pain, or aren't too bothered about it, by all means go without lube if you prefer.
But the safety end of it...in addition to the billions of STD's on offer, anal without condoms and lube exposes you to the risk of such delights as bleeding piles, a damaged sphinter leading to chronic rectal pain, anal fissures (basically a tear in your anal lining which may eventually need surgery to remove part of your bowel), and at worst, anal perforation which is potentially fatal.
Seems like a lot to risk for the sake of an extra thrill. Sweetie, seriously, don't forget the lube and DEFINITELY don't forget the condoms.
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reader, bobbles32  +, writes (13 August 2009):
 It's pretty painful, more of a ripping sensation. Not sure if it's safe, but it can definitely get really painful..
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