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writes:help me plse my boyfriend and i had been ating for 10 months from the start he wanted mearound all the time, abot 1 month in he told me he loved me. we were together all the time his choice. no he says he needs space to do what ever he wants when ever he wants. i ask him what that means he flips out says he dont want to talk about it any more. as soon as he says that not even 1 ourlater he calls me and ask me to go out to eat or to come over, he said that giving him space may help him love me more which now he wont tell me he loves me? i dont kno what he wants. i think he wants to break up but he does not want to leave the security of a realationship,help me please
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reader, ms.sherri +, writes (14 October 2008):
 Hi 1 secret men won't tell u is that they love the hunt and chase. Unfortunately he knows you will do anything for him and even though in the world with the normal people this may work but for the rest of us its not so true. Ultimately u need 2 have a level of ur own acceptance do 4 u and not be available. Only when u see a change and if he cares with no having no contact with him it will spark his attention and then the chase is on. Then u can build the relationship into something beautiful. When its close to u usually we don't see it until its out of our grasp. It works I've gone through the same thing and my hardcore man is now gentle kind etc. All the while I stayed kind but not available. Things will be great. Patience is the key. Huggs. Toi
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reader, Blackjack +, writes (19 July 2008):
Well being a guy who was told that was a reason for the break up with my now EX, I can understand the being around each other and then wanting space and then an hour later wanting to see each other, well I learned the hard way that if you keep up a yo-yo affect it can lead to problems, i would suggest asking him upfront if there is anything causing him to want to be apart or space or is it just he needs some time for himself. If it is another issue try and figure out the best way to fix it which could in fact be space or it could be something else.....
Anyway thats just my opinion on things. I hope things go well for you.
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reader, daniellexxxx  +, writes (14 July 2008):
 It seems like you have being together all the time and he's got to the point where he cant breathe it's normal for people to want space to do the things the want on there own.
I see my boy friend through the day and on a night i have some me time he gets all mad but it doesnt mean he doesnt love you.
Good luck.x
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