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writes:Well she had recently been ignoring me and i had been wondering why she had been doing this. It was really upsetting me so i tried ignoring her to get her to realize how much it botherd me, nothing changed.Well i had till now been waiting for her since 1 month before summer breaks end meaning i have easliy been waiting to have more of a relationship with her for 6 months. Well i found out today why she didnt want to talk to me. She has intrest in another guy, and cant face me to tell me so. And it just hurts me more. I feel betrayed and used after everything i have done for her, and she can do this to me.What makes it worse was i was going to try talking to her again tommorow and now this. She has killed almost evrything i fealt for her, if she really cared about me she wouldnt do this to me. I had been having trust issues with her because she does shit like this. I never want to talk to her again. I want to know do some girls get something positive by hurting guys who like them. Like playing a sick game of cat and mouse.And i told a few girls no that really do care about me because of her how do i make it up one of them that i really like, because i feel like the biggest jerk now. Thanks for any help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): The answer is "yes" they do. However, the guy will always have the upperhand, just don't put a girl first, date two at once to see which is a better fit for you.(this is what they like to do) Some girls like to keep you guessing and act all mysterious. This just means they are a dishonest person. Girls are fickle, and not to be mean, but not very smart either. My advice is if/when u decide to settle down with one make them sign a prenuptial agreement, maybe she won't leave knowing she won't get anything... Just remember bro's before hoe's.
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (23 January 2008):
Well moving on is really your decision but sometimes i think guys give up easily.I'm the type of person who doesn't easily give up and i don't like seeing someone give up but if you think you've reached your limit then well forget.
Tk care.
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (21 January 2008):
Moviefan is verified as being by the original poster of the question Yah, she has done a lot more then this that has upset me and i guess i have been pursuing her this last 6 months or so and it all has just lead to her being cold to me and now she is beggining to what seems like, toying with my emotions. I dont give her the satisfaction of seing me upset and confused, and its pissing her off that im not lettig her know that im upset and she does more and more to try to upset me. She has given me evil look several times because of this.
. After i tried to patch things up she still ignored me several times.... And i think my best choice from what i have got from this site and my friends who have lived this situation with me think is to move on like i was planning. She is being a cold well bitch to me lately and is dating another guy, she started a day after i posted this. And she inderectly rubed it in my face several times.
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reader, MissKin  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 First of all, to answer your question...
"Do some girls enjoy emotionally hurting guys and using them?"
Yes. Some girls do. Some girls are that evil. So are some guys. That's the unfortunate truth about humanity i'm afraid. Though, the majority of people from both genders never set out to intentionally hurt people on purpose, it happens.
As for the situation at hand... if she's ignoring you because she likes another guy and can't 'face telling you' then this is her way of trying to not hurt you. So she's not as horrible as you may think she is. Perhaps she see's telling you to your face a far worse way of hurting you than ignoring you? Who knows. Girls work in mysterious and complex ways, trust me - I don't even get myself sometimes.
Either way talking to her would seem like a good option. Things obviously aren't sorting themselves out for you by playing the cold-shoulder game. Whatever you do try to keep a cool head around her, don't start a screaming or dirt-slinging match.
I'm sure you'll get loads more good advice off of other people on here, keep it all in your head but do what you think is best - in the end you're the only one you're going to have to blame for your actions.
Hope all works out for the best.
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reader, Brooke123 +, writes (17 January 2008):
Heya sweetie, Im sorry to hear for all the pain she's put you through. You dont deserve it at all!
To be honest (I know this is what everyone says) shes not worth ur attention and love if shes acting like this. I think its a good thing you have seen this side of her as this seems to be the true her-not a nice person.
And about ur question on whether we get something positive by hurting guys- its not true, no we dont, I cant safely speak for all girls as some may feel this way. But its the same for guys aswell really, thers some nasty people out there in the world and u just have to find the nicer ones. You just had a little bump in the road and was unfortunate to have found this girl. Don't let this bring u down. You sound like a great guy.
And about ur last question- You need to speak to which ever girl it is u like. And just be honest, tell her that you made a mistake and are glad this has happend otherwise u wouldnt have been able to realise which person it is u really like. Tell her your sorry and would love to make it up to her by maybe taking her out or something? If she liked u, her feelings arnt likely to have changed. She will probably be a bit unsure at first but I bet inside she will be overjoyed. I hope this has helped, and email me on private thing if u need to talk anymore. Good luck and dont wrry! x
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reader, chlez83 +, writes (17 January 2008):
Dude how will the girl know if you don't ever tell her.Just because she ignored doesn't mean you should do the same.It's in their nature.They naturally expect you the guy to persue them but as you get older you'll meet some who'll be persuing you.For now you gotta learn that it's your job to persue and yes if you have such a weak heart,you'll always be frustrated.You gotta persevere and if rejected be happy you tried.In your case you haven't tried coz you expect her to fall for your looks or clothes and come after you.Gather your guts and face her.Actually the time you are busy explaining to us you should be busy thinking of how to win her over.Some girls don't like guys who give up easily.Besides you have said she has interest in the other guy and that doesn't mean they are dating.Either you stop complaining and try your luck despite how rude she may be,just believe she can change or stop thinking about her and find other girls to talk to.
Good Luck.
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