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writes:Hello,I'm 37 years old and I fancy a guy of 45 who I suspect fancies me too. However, there is a pretty girl of 26 that also likes him. Will he automatically fancy her more because she is younger? When I found out she liked him I have been avoiding him because I feel I have already lost. We are all single. Reply to this Question
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reader, everyminute  +, writes (25 August 2016):
If he is a lady's man charming all the pretty girls at work he may not only be looking at you like he fancies you but the 26 yr old as well.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (27 July 2016):
 There is no cut and dried answer for this. It depends on the man, his preferences, his needs, his wants. If he has been married before and has children, then he might be very happy with a woman closer to his own age. If he has never had children, then a younger woman might be more appealing. He may be attracted to younger women, or perhaps he finds them not as easy to talk to and likes someone who grew up around the same time as him and can relate.
My husband is six years younger than me, but we are close enough in age that we like all the same music and can easily relate to each other. He says he wouldn't want someone younger because he wants someone that can understand him and not ask a dumb question like "Who is Val Halen"??? He doesn't want a woman older than me because he's afraid they might not have closeness.
Then you have to add in attraction....maybe a man has no intention of dating an older woman but one walks in that just knocks his shoes off...
Who knows??? You just can't compartimentalize this kind of situation.
If you like him honey, throw your hat in the ring and see what happens!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 July 2016):
 *chuckle @ Tisha*
I don't think EVERY guy will choose a younger woman over an "older" (in comparison to the younger woman).
I think a guy in his 40's knows that compatibility is WAY more important than age. IF he is looking to start a family, then maybe a younger woman would be a "better" option. If he is NOT looking for someone to procreate with, whomever is the BEST match would probably win out.
What THIS guy wants is impossible for us to guess.
If he is the "type" who rather date younger women, then YES you don't have a chance.
If he DOESN'T pick dates based on when they were born, but WHO they are, YOU DO.
If you REALLY like this guy why give up? UNLESS he is ALREADY seeing the other woman. If he isn't and you BOTH just happen to like him, you stand as much of a chance as she does.
If you have this defeatist attitude you will stay single.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (27 July 2016):
 Ask Prince Charles!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2016): Would a woman fancy a rich guy over a poor one? A tall handsome athletic guy over a chubby balding short guy?
We all as humans seek special attributes for the sake of flattering our egos, satisfying our fantasies, and to boost our self-esteem. Then we grow-up and reality teaches us what we deserve, need, and that which is best for us. We don't know happiness until we truly discover what it is we are looking for to make us happy. We are influenced by media, public opinion, and selfishness.
So there is no real answer to your rhetorical question. I guess it all depends on what he really wants. Just sex, or someone to really have a meaningful relationship. If he hopes to have children, or just wants arm-candy. Youth doesn't always win. It only gets first preference.
Your cynicism, low self-esteem, and negative opinion of men will keep you a very lonely person. You can't presume all men are alike, no more than all women are alike. You're defeated without trying, based on unfounded theories about what you think men want.
You could live a hundred years and never meet every man or know what every man thinks. You can only go by the men you meet and the type you are attracted to.
Generally, younger prettier people get more attention regardless of gender. It doesn't mean they're the only people who are successful at attracting people.
If you're not available for him to discover anything about you that he may be looking for; I guess you'll never know. She doesn't have to worry about any competition, you've already defeated yourself, read his mind, and made it up for him.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 July 2016):
 Well it depends, is this man very shallow? If he is 45 then he should be mature enough to know that there is more to a girl than her age and looks. Sweetie you need to have more confidence, so she is younger than you, that does not mean she is more suited to him than you. If you like this man and you suspect he likes you as well then ask him out and see how it goes, look after yourself. Make yourself happy. Good luck.
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