A
male
age
41-50,
*apan
writes:I have got married to my wife bcoz i needed a visa to stay in Japan. But at the same time i did loved her before we got married and I truly still do (so we just accelerated our marriage). About month ago she informed me that she need some space for herself and that I need to get more mature and show her more love. After one month I do understand what she means... She moved to her friends place and we still see each others sometimes. The problem about her moving to her friends place is that before me and my wife got together she had a sex relationship with him so i am having a hard time to deal with this... Basically they are staying under one roof together. One thing is that he is actually staying in different room with his Girlfriend and i do really think that my wife and him are very close friends (about 8 years). Do I have to worry about this? Even my wife is telling me that she still love me and that she doesn't find her friend attractive to her anymore I still do not fell comfortable about this. Thanks in advance for your thoughts... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2010): Reply TO: A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2010):
Thank you very much for your honest email. I totaly agree with you and i wanted to ask you what you mean by "shape up" ???
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2010): You say she left you because she said you need to basically grow up and show her more love....and you know what she means! If you dont like that shes staying with an ex and his girlfriend ask yourself why shes there. You are her husband. If you were behaving in a mature loving manner she wouldnt be there. Maybe its time to shape up and get your wife home.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (19 January 2010):
Sorry my friend, but she used you for the visa. It's very clear to me that she's wants this other guy. You don't have anything to prove. You married her! I think she used you for the visa.
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reader, Honest Answer  +, writes (19 January 2010):
 I wouldn't let my wife move in with any man, let alone a guy she was involved with. Woman in general are faithful, but you toss in a previous relationship and the close quarters living arangements, and that equals trouble for your marriage.
If you want this marriage to work, either get her back in your apartment, or get her a place for herself.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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