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anonymous
writes:Today a girl called me see if I wanted to go out to eat for dinner. She told me that she would call me back when she was ready to be picked up. However, she never called me back. She has been interested in me for a while and broke up with her longtime boyfriend recently. I feel really stupid waiting that long for a girl to call me back. I rarely go out socially with girls because of being very shy around them and have no experience. My two questions are 1) Why would she ask me out and then not call me back? 2) Was this is intended as a date?
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reader, Angela.B  +, writes (26 July 2008):
 The obvious question is have you called her to ask why?
The answer could be one of a thousand things, such as some emergency cropped up for example.
As for the intention of the arrangement, again you won't know how she feels until you communicate with her. She obviously likes you enough to call to arrange dinner, which is a good start I would have thought.
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reader, SilverSun +, writes (26 July 2008):
 Wait a few days see if she calls back, something may have turned up, you never know.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (26 July 2008):
 1. Many things may have happened. Family crisis. An accident. Phone died. She got cold feet. I would go for the latter. Many people get nervous before going on a date with someone they like and she couldn't resist this and just decided to fall back.
2.Did she call it "a date"? Did she a mentioned "my friends"? At what time of was the date? Where there only be the two of you? Where was the date going to be?
I could keep on going with questions that can determine what it was intended. If the time of the date was on the day and in a bistro or coffee place, then it's probably just a friend date. If the date was at night and in a restaurant, then it might be a romantic date. Going out with friends also makes it a friendly date.
But she sounds interested with you. You have already noticed that she's interested in you and that she even broke up with her boyfriend to have an opportunity with you. She has even tried to take the first steps in the relationship to be with you, but it doesn't sound to me that you're much interested. I may be wrong, but I think you're just doing this because you may be alone and you want to solve that.
Well, I think you should try to call her asking her why she didn't call you to pick her up. Do it the next day after the date. Don't try to sound accusatory and play it cool. There must have been a reason.
Good luck
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