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writes:Me and my ex hadn't spoken in over a month. we got into an arguement and told me to just leave her alone so I did. There was no contact between us at all. Well last night she sends me a friend request on facebook. I still like the girl but I'm talkin to another girl now and she has a boyfriend so what would cause her to send me a friend request after she told me to leave her alone? and said that we weren't friends anymore (we tried to stay friends after we broke up but it didnt work)
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reader, LethalInjection-x  +, writes (10 November 2009):
 I agree with the other answer, that she could just be curious. It could be that she wants to keep an eye on things, a lot of exes use facebook as a type of "spy tool" to keep an eye on relationship statuses, communication with other girls/lads and pictures with other people. Or it could simply be the whole upping the friend count thing that so many people seem obsessed with lately.
Whatever the reason, I'd say accept her, as declining could end up stirring up trouble as it's a sign of harsh feelings I suppose, and don't think anything of it unless there's any real issues.
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reader, PeanutButter +, writes (10 November 2009):
 She is most probably curious, which isn't a bad thing, but it probably isn't a good thing either because it might end up dragging up old memories and old problems as well as some new ones.
Best thing to do is not to accept her request, you're not together anymore and you don't owe her anything - in real life you would probably not have the opportunity to see what she's up to and she wouldn't know what you were up to either and you would both be able to move on with your lives without interfering with one another until you bump into one another in the street one day years later and realise the hurt is gone and you can finally be friends.
Facebook, as good as it can be, can cause all kinds of problems.
If you've already added her, you could always satisfy your curiosity by emailing her and asking her why she felt the need to add you and decide what you feel comfortable doin with regards to having her watch you from afar and vice versa.
Her reasons could be many, but curiosity is most likely high on the list but maybe she just wants to try and be friends? Speak to her and see.
Good luck xx
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reader, fandabbydoseylauren +, writes (10 November 2009):
ok well froma girl's point of view she might still have feelings for you and just want to keep an eye on you... hence adding you as a friend on facebook. there is nothing wrong with being friends on facebook with exes, it may a totall innocent add afterall. maybe send her a message and say that your confused cause you thought she made it clear that you two were no longer friends... it may be that she simply had a chnage of heart. hope this helps :) x
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