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writes:Hi Aunts/Uncles.I discovered my long term partner had been cheating on me all through our relationship (7years). I turned to all of you for advice. Which you gave me and I greatfully took.The problem now is, he says he didn't feel guilty while he was cheating, and he still doesn't feel guilty for doing it or for what he put me through.I can't get my head round thisCan anyone help me please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHad to say Thankyou to every Aunt/Uncle who kindly took the time to read and answer my post. You are all so right, especially Baby Duck. I did as baby duck suggested and read and re-read all the suggested links, baby duck you were spot on. Thankyou.Just one point i'd like to make clear he did not tell me that he'd been cheating on me, I found out by chance when he forgot to log off his email account, even then he tried to deny it all, even though there were photos of him having sex with other women.Once again thankyou all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2009): Do yourself a favour and stop caring what he thinks.
He is in the past now so leave him there and go out and meet a real man
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (10 November 2009):
 Hun, its time to walk away from this relationship. The fact that he shows no remorse for what he has done should be a sign to you that he will continue to cheat regardless.By staying with him you will condone and accept his behaviour and unfortunately, you will have all the pain.He is also putting your health at risk, I would suggest you have a full battery of STI and HIV tests done and send him on his way.You do not deserve to be treated like this.Honeygirl
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (10 November 2009):
He feels no guilt because as the post says below, he's basically not committed and he's got everything he wants.
Walk away from him and give yourself some time and care. You can do much better.
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reader, Honeygirl +, writes (10 November 2009):
Awesome advice Baby Duck!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2009): And your question is?...Majority of people who cheat don't feel quilty about it.He was honest w/you at least, seems like you spend a lot of time disecting this situation, and torture yourself about it. What you really want to be sure of that he doesn't do it again. What is he saying about it?It's not nessesary that he is going to do it again only because he didn't feel guilty about it. Of-course if he is going to do it again, quilt will not be a stoping point for him.Some men and women cheat nomatter what. They do it all their lives w/any partner, even if they are really affectionate about their partner. For them cheating is just a nice part of their life:someone new and exciting all the time. Then they come home to their wives or husbands, loving them just the same.It is really up to you now what you 'll do w/information you have. You really can't change anyone, but you Can change YOUR life. a LOT OF WOMEN, especially women, choose to ignore their man love life for exchange of certain comodities, some choose to leave and be on their own, rather then w/cheating partner. All choices are OK, if it will make you happy, but don't try to change him, especially at that age, it's a waste of time. Good luck.
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