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*oncernedgirlj
writes:my boyfriend has a female friend but i have only heard them talk very briefly a handful of times in 7 yrs but we are arguing about him wanting her to come to our wedding. i dont feel comfortable about there friendship, due to what seems to be secret. im very hurt that he would rather have me uncomfortable at our wedding then just tell her not to come. please help. need advise.Why would he want her to come to our wedding when I don't feel comfortable
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reader, person12345 +, writes (18 April 2013):
 I agree with TasteofIndia. If he was interested in her, why would he invite her to the ceremony where he declares his love for you right in front of her? I'm a bit confused on why this woman is making you so upset. Is there a specific reason? I mean half the world's population is female, so he's bound to make friends with women sometimes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2013): Prince Charles had camilla at his wedding to princess Diana . So yes I would be wary .. If your gut tells you something isn't right then best thing is to sit down and discuss it . There isn't a heap load of trust here and if it were me, I would cancel the wedding until at least I got to the root of the issue .. This is your day ( big wedding we all know are mostly for the girls, guy don't dream of big weddings . The dream of fast cars and lots of hot women) The issue is this close relationship .. Get that sorted the rest will fall into place..
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2013): Im sorry your feeling like this but this is his wedding too and he should be able to invite his own guest. The brides always makes it about them and our men allow us too but he should have a say on the wedding list too.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (17 April 2013):
 I'm not sure why you're getting upset over this.
Really, he's inviting her to your WEDDING. The time when he stands in front of the world and tells them exactly how much he adores you, loves you and commits to you for the rest of his life. And this is something that you don't want her to see?
I mean, even if you do feel a little threatened, this seems like a pretty great place for her to be invited to. She will be watching him become completely off the market.
She's a friend. And he would like her to come and witness the happiest day of his life. And I, for one, do not think that you should be standing in the way of that. You should not be marrying a man that you do not trust!
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reader, CMMP +, writes (17 April 2013):
Why would you not feel comfortable for no apparent reason?
If your boyfriend didn't like one of your friends for no reason and told you they can't come to the wedding would you just say "anything for you honey!"
The facts that she's a woman and you're insecure are just a coincidence. Had he slept with her, then there may be some reasoning behind it, but as it is you're asking him to not invite someone to your wedding for NO reason. I don't think that's fair at all, and if he starts bending over to you for weak things like this you'll start losing respect for him in no time.
Please remember that YOU are the one he wants to spend the rest of his life with. If he had something going on with this girl he wouldn't be inviting her to the wedding to say the least. It's time to start trusting the man you want to marry or your marriage might not last long.
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