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writes:I asked my boyfriend if he ever thought that other men were attracted to me. He said no and said that he felt that other men would not be attracted to me. He never even gave it a thought. I see women who are attracted to him and he is always staring at other women. He said that I am a beautiful woman inside and out. Why would he not feel that other men might be interested in me? I am 5'2" tall, weigh 115lbs, have long light brown hair, green eyes, straight teeth and a cute smile according to him and other men that I have known. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2007): HI HUN,
Im not beating around the bush on this one, He is insecure and doesnt want you to feel secure in your looks so you dont feel good about yourself. There for wont even think your worth very much apart of course to him.
It is now very much on your mind, And for someone who is supposed to love you to say this and make you feel so bad then they are not so beautiful on the inside...
He told you himself you were beautiful inside and out so whats he babbling on about love, your lovely and he doesnt want you to think so just incase you think you can run off with someone else... pure insecurity on his part... YOU TAKE CARE HUN LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2007): Hi,Im sorry to hear you are going out with a guy like that. If you want my honest advise you should be as brave as you can and LEAVE HIM!! No guy should ever tell you that other men would not be attracted to you!! what kind of a stupid ass thing is that to say. Of cource other men will be attracted to you. The reason he said that is to keep you in check, he does not want you to feel attractive or maybe available but that is not true love or care. If he is looking at other women all the time then tell him to go ask them out, you can do better, believe me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2007): It is because he is afraid that other men would be attracted to you and he doesn't want you to know it!
I had a boyfriend who rarely complimented me and later on I found out he didn't want me to know I looked "hot" because then I would think other men would notice me and vice versa.
There many instances with couples where when the wife loses a lot of weight and then husband ends up feeling threatened instead of pleased with her appearance. He's afraid that she's going to attract other men and ends up sabotaging her diet and trying to get her to put the weight back on!
So it's probably insecurity on your boyfriend's part. He obviously finds you attractive and is attracted to you because he's with you. He just doesn't want you KNOWING that OTHER GUYS would be attracted to you.
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reader, lisarocksyoursocksoff  +, writes (15 July 2007):
 maybe what he emans is that he just trusts you.. so he doesn not worry about othe rmen being attracted to you
maybe he is just trying to ignore that men might be attracted to you
it's not as if he doesn't find you attractive because he has told you he does
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reader, Dick Diva  +, writes (15 July 2007):
I don't know and so I'll just guess with a sort-of-text-book answer as to why men don't think life partners are attractive to others.
We see our partners at their worst and some with self esteem issues can tend to believe there is a transparency to everything in their lives - that everyone can see the real them and it's not going to be good enough. Every thing they like is not good enough. As soon as they love someone or like something it becomes tainted with their own desire.
Did that make sense? in short -
Maybe it's because he has low self esteem?
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reader, sweeite +, writes (15 July 2007):
im sorry but what are you doing with him, he is only saying that because he is scared that if he loses you will find someone new, trust me love i aint seen you but you sound so nice and good looking. as long as you feel good in yourself then thats all that matters
bless
take care
xxx
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