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writes:I have this friend. (we'll call him jon) I met jon a few days ago while hanging with friends after school. he flirted with me and I flirted with him. he asked for my number and gave me his.that afternoon jon started texting me. he told me he liked me and I told him I liked him too. but he thought I had a boyfriend so he said we could be just friends, so I then told him I was single. he said he had a girlfriend but he may break up with her soon and maybe me and him could hang out sometime. I told him I wouldn't want him to ruin a relationship because of me and he said its not about me and i was like okay...that night I snuck out if the house to go see him on his way home from work. we just sat and talked and showed each other pictures and took pictures on each others phones. then we started cuddling and I was feeling uneasy because I knew he had a girlfriend. so I stopped it right there. jon texted me later to make sure I got home safely. then he told me he really wanted to kiss me. no guy has ever told me that, ever. so I was mad at myself for cutting the night short. we hung out after school the next afternoon and we flirted more.I have looked at his myspace page and jon and his girlfriend seem soo happy! like, it makes me cry because the love they obviously share, its so beautiful. they talk about being together for the rest of their lives and there's over 50 pictures of them two together. so basically, I really like jon but I am very uneasy about the whole girlfriend thing. am I a bad person for liking a guy who has a girlfriend?(because my friends are really making it seem like I am..) why would he do this to his girlfriend when they seem so incredibly happy? is there any way I can get him off of my mind, because he is driving me insane!?jon is seriously the sweetest boy I have ever met. I would love to get to know him better or even date him. but I know if I was in his girlfriend's place, I'd want this girl to back away from my boyfriend. so I'm pretty much stuck. or at least it feels like it..I'm just really confused... ://thanks in advance!!(apologies for the length)
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reader, GeorgiaGirl84 +, writes (30 March 2008):
 If this guy is soooo happy with his girlfriend, he wouldn't be talking to you on the side. There's obviously some part of his relationship that he's not satisfied with. He's probably bored. Most guys will take advantage of any opportunity to get any kind of play. If you get involved with him, you risk him using you and going back to his girlfriend. You'll just be left hurt and confused. I think you should just let it go until he's single. Besides you should think about his girlfriends feelings and how much she would be hurt. It's never fun to be the other woman.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): Well, I would not have any contact with him until he breaks up with his girlfriend, especially feeling the way you do and the way he is trying to get intimate with you...and you snuck out of the house to hang out with him, he may be looking for some sex......so don't give him any....don't know if you do that, but don't mess around with this guy, he is testing the waters here, and he is being a jerk, he has a girlfriend who thinks he wants to spend the rest of his life with her.
I seriously doubt that he and his girlfriend are going to ride off into the sunset together. If you want your chance with him, then I would wait until they break up or he dumps her, then it can be your turn to play around with this guy until he dumps you./////
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