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writes:Im divocing my husband at the moment and waiting to sort out the finance matter with my husband. I've met this man who is very nice to me. I am looking for a job and have no money. He has got a good job and quite weathly but he doesnt offer any help with money. But he says he loves me and tell me to get benefit from the government. I doubt he really loves me. Please advise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008): I agree with all the other Aunts here. It is not his responsibility to support you at all financially. Your situation now, regarding your financial situation is your concern.
I doubt your intentions, not his.
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (29 March 2008):
 He is not obligated to help you. You are not his responsibility. I agree with him. You need to learn to help yourself. Just as you are wondering if he really loves you then why wont he just give you a handout, HE is wondering if you really love him or if he's just a piggy bank to you. He should NOT give you money.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): I don't think from what you say this means this guy doesn't love you. You have financial problems, if you are entitled to state benefits then I suppose you should file for them. He hasn't married you, your financial problems are not his to take on just because he has more money than you do, and he may feel that it would be an insult to your self esteem and your sense of independence and fair play to bail you out of your problems that are the result of your divorce.
If you have just gotten divorced and just recently met this wealthy man, he may fear that you are only interested in him for his money. He doesn't want a woman who doesn't love him for him, so I think you are expecting to get something here that is not reasonable at this stage in your relationship. I am afraid this financial mess and lack of job and no money thing is a consequence of divorce that is unfortuneatley yours alone to sort out. Holding someone hostage for money, claiming they don't love you if they don't fork it over is a form of emotional blackmail.
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