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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hey all, so I started seeing this guy four months ago and we talked about dating, well then he got a letter saying he had to go back to the military and stopped talking to me after telling me that, he didn't have to go until November. However, he doesn't have to go anymore and he suddenly started talking to me as if we never stopped talking. Do people know why people do this? Why a guy blows off a girl then suddenly, after months, crawls back into their life as if they did nothing wrong? I know girls do this too but I just find it odd.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (13 July 2010):
 They crawl back because women let them.
This guy either got from your previous interactions with you the impression that you are a compliant, unassertive type- or had in his past several instances of women who let him crawl back no questions asked.
People only treats you the way you teach them to treat you- good or bad.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (13 July 2010):
 Because they think you are stupid and desperate for them to come back. You know what? Bursting their bubble feels SO GOOD.
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reader, everyrose969  +, writes (13 July 2010):
Because guys are stupid.
They always peace out and then come back.
I think a lot of them either a) find it easy to come back to the girls they know will talk to them. Or are easily accessible. OR b) they want what they can't have.
Like when I start dating a new guy, I usually get pretty bored of them because I know they're going to talk to me 24-7 and I'm always going to see them. You lose the excitement of the chase.
Guys love the chase. So I advise you to play mild mind games with him. Make yourself distant. Don't answer his texts for 8 hours or even at all at times. MAKE HIM MISS YOU!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): He can't "crawl" back into your life unless you allow it. Start being distance at times and don't make yourself so available to him. I notice that when ppl in general make themselves accessable to others they are bound to be taken for granted and used. Even if you are in love with this guy or interested in him....just play it cool.
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