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writes:Why would a husband buy a recorder and hide it from me? I found a recorder in my vehichle and asked him if he knew what it was. He said it looked like a recorder. I said, oh maybe it belongs to one of our kids friends. He went on to his own business. Later I asked where did that recorder go? I want to show the kids to see if it belongs to one of their friends. He finally admitted it was his. I asked "Why was it in my vehicle?" He said, I bought it a few weeks ago and maybe it fell out of my pocket. But the problem with that is he hasn't used my veichle for it to fall out. I truly believe he put it there on purpose. My question is... WHY?Why would a man try to record his wife secretly? I am an open and honest person. I have never lied to him. We have our ups and downs like any marriage has.Thank you for any thoughts you might have. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2009): My husband did this but he was bi polar. I did not like it as I felt violated in my own home. I was not cheating he was just being paranoid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2009): Maybe hes trying to track everywhere you go?!? Like some other answers have said he might be insecure you're cheating on him
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2009): Maybe he has an illness and is really insecure and his personal demons are telling him you are having multiple affairs and with the recording he would be able to know if it was true.
Is he the controlling type? If so then that plus the insecurity would have led him to do it.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 November 2009):
There is a reason that he doens't trust you at the moment, so you need to get talking to him quickly.
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reader, CheeZecurlyQ89 +, writes (25 November 2009):
Maybe he feels vulnerable in your marriage or maybe he has a friend in his ear convincing him something is up, even though a huge part of him probably knows that nothing is. Perhaps you two should sit down and discuss how you're feeling in your marriage and why he would find it necessary to place a recorder in your car. But try not to sound accusatory or harsh, it makes men less willing to open up; also, sitting a distance away makes him feel like he has space to lay it all out. Its a psychological thing. I hope it works out for you!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (25 November 2009):
 Was it a voive recorder or a video recorder? Not that it matters I'm just curious. The bottomline is something is making him distrust you. Time so a nice long chat with the hubby.
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reader, Frenzotic +, writes (25 November 2009):
 Have you been doing anything to make him think suspiciously?
Tell him it's strange since he never uses your car, hand it back to him and tell him that you're open and honest and if he wants to talk to talk to you. Leave him to be after that. If it happens again though then you should really question him on what he's doing.
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