A
male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:My girlfriend and I have been together for about 9 months now. We had sex for the first time about 3 months ago. (She has a 6 month rule, like Joan Clayton from the show Girlfriends.. lol) Anyways, I really like her alot, and she's the only girl that's ever made me feel this way before. So naturally, I want to do things to her that I haven't done to my other partners in the past; orally. But everytime her and I are in bed together and I try to do it she pushes me away and pulls me back up. I've even asked her why she doesn't want me to do it and she's said that she thinks it weird and doesn't know how anyone can get pleasure from it. How can I get her to change her mind? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2011): I think she's shy. Give it time and tell her occasionally that you'll like to go down. She say yes eventually and would probably luv it
A
female
reader, sneaky_nicky  +, writes (10 May 2011):
It seems that she has never tried that. Don't scare her, if you want to try it with her then do it in a subtle way, she will soon give in when she feels the time is right. Be patient.
...............................
A
female
reader, CindyCares  +, writes (10 May 2011):
 Why do you want her to change her mind ? Isn't that supposed to be mostly for her pleasure ? If she is not into it- then it's no pleasure.
I know it worked well on your exes, but... everybody is diffferent. Suppose that your gf used to pleasure her ex by penetrating him anally with a dildo, and she assumed you'd love that, while instead maybe it's not your cup of tea. Should she try to change your mind ?
...............................
A
male
reader, spinnaker +, writes (10 May 2011):
 She doesn't like it - nuff said. There is nothing wrong with her - such is just her preferences.
Why would you wish to persuade her to do something that would make her uncomfortable?
...............................
A
female
reader, lil-kitten-02 +, writes (10 May 2011):
 She is probably scared that you would ask her to return the favor. Sometimes, a real lady wants to keep a little mystery for the future. Meaning: I'm not a virgin, but I'm saving my oral for marriage. Just be patient and don't let your hormones make you lose a good woman.
...............................
|
