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*ysterious girl
writes:Hi I would like a little bit of advice about a slight problem that i am facing with my husband. I am 23 and my husband does not want me to go out with my friends or my sister (I go out once every 2-3 months not often at all) he always tells me to be home by a specific time. I feel like I am being treated like a child and I don't like being treated that way, its causing me to resent him and makes me very unhappy. I feel like I am a prisoner!! How should I handle this situation? I tried standing up for myself but he always shuts me out and I am afraid its gonna get worse! Reply to this Question
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reader, honesty +, writes (12 May 2007):
you need to talk to him he might be thinking your gonna find someone else if you go out but you cant let him control your life let him know how you are feeling about this and about you starting to resent him because that might make him relise what hes actully doing
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reader, Carramea +, writes (12 May 2007):
You are in trouble, if he is dictating who you can see, when you can see them and including your family in this scenario... honey get out... get out fast...this is not going to get any better.... the more you allow this to happen the worse it is going to get.. trust me I know, I have been there.....you do not want to end up like me... do not let this man do this to you... you are 23, an adult, a woman with a mind of her own... use it. If you have family you can trust, talk to them, tell them what is going on, tell them the truth, hide nothing, make sure they understand... this is not a healthy realtionship to be in...Carramea
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reader, kenny +, writes (12 May 2007):
 You have got to talk to your husband about this and get something sorted, otherwise this marriage is set to fail. You already feel like a prisoner, and over time you are going to build up feelings of resentment, and these feelings are bad.
You husband is obviously very insecure and is worried that you are going to meet someone else when you are out. You have got to stress to him that is healthy to go out with friends, and see your family once in a while.
Does he catch up with friends for a drink ever? Either way you have got to talk to him about this and sooner rather than later other wise you will get to a point where you just can't take it anymore.
All the best of luck x
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reader, AskEve +, writes (12 May 2007):
 He's obviously feeling very insecure in case he loses you to someone else so you need to reassure him that you love him very much and would never ever jeopardise your relationship for anything! Let him know (in a nice way) that relationships are all about trust... does he not trust you enough to be able to go out with your friends one night without him? You could even ask him to go with you once in a while!
Could it be your sister is single and he's frightened she'll lead you astray? Is he a lot older than you?
Eve
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